sleeping with the enemy

Submitted by hisham zein (Egypt), Sep 11, 2008 at 20:54

i am not here to let women down or tell what to do and donots ..we all are grownup and we can judge where our next steps will lead us .

the problem is that you all have entered the spider web willingly and spiders dont have any mercy ..

ladies... i am not totally against relationships or marriages of different cultures since i see it a healthy sign that people can really coexist but there are huge differences between cultures that turns out to be the main reason for unhealthy relationship ..

let us ignore those middle eastern men who are after those relationships to benefit ..these do that for living and those of you who fell into this kind of men should instantly retreat and should share their experience of how they did retreat for other members to have good lessons of avoiding that kind of parasites .

and let us set the islamic religion aside which i believe is very much innocent of what many of its followers practice .

i can understand why many western women fall in love with middle easterners , love has no barriers ..no reasons ...it sometimes make us fall in love with the wrong match and its going to be too late till you realize that .

as i posted before an australian business associate once told me when i was telling her about this post while having lunch at the fish market restaurant overlooking the nile ( and by the way for the best fish in the world any of you who happen to visit cairo should try it ) she said she knows many women who are ready to fly hundreds of billions of gallons of water away just for sex..so if that is the reason let us also ignore those who are after that...am sorry i am just sharing a thought ..something i have been told and i feel reluctant to vote for it .

love should automatically lead to marriage or let us go a step down and say lead to at least living together ..and marriage ..togetherness..is different that webcam love ..different than visits every now and then ...you will face the conflict of cultures..difference of traditions and interests ..

for instance its common practice when a male friend kisses a female in the west ...but its shameful and misconduct in the middle east ... see how your middle easterner will react when your work associate kisses you ... or maybe have you to lunch ..this is very normal but upnormal for men here..

against the idea you have islam doesnt ask women to stay at home contrary to that it urges women to be positive but men dont like the idea of women being financially independent and men will sooner than you think ask you to quit your job ..your job you spent most of your life to maintain ..

most men dont drink alcoholics but you do ...this is not going to be an issue in the beginning but will be a terrible issue later on .

if men suddenly fly to your country to marry , work and stay it will be too late for him to be adapted to the new hard concepts of your societies ... he has to be a hard worker in the machine of your economy and he is not used to long hours of work at all ...most youngmen unfortunately dream to be general managers as a first job ignoring the usual sequence of success ...success made by tears..blood...success..failure ...long long hours ..so you will need to educate him of the philosophy of work ..and the ethics behind it .

then when you happen to have kids ..the islamic gene within him will wake up and he will insist that his kids be moslims ..against your wish of them being christians ..or at least let them choose their practice ... and when he sees no hope of you to agree he may have his kids sent to his homeland ...am telling you all this out of experiences i witnessed and heard of ....some went to a dramatic way here in egypt when western women kidnap their kids with the help of their embassies to fly them home ....although any local court will grant her costudy and can leave freely .

i picked the title of this post after the movie film of julia roberts and see throughout the film how our misjudging others lead to miserable lives .

please please please the end of the world is not tomorrow ..take your time ..consult anyone you know who may have a marriage of that kind .... make sure your middle eastern man is really your dream ..talk to him francly and freely about all your worries..all your thoughts ...love is not sex ladies ...sex is a few moments a week and may hours of living together ..

am fair and i promise to give any advice even if it is against my fellow citizens

thank you

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