Some Thoughts, Belinda....Lebanese in Austrailia, Angry Men, ect.

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 11, 2008 at 21:49

Hi Belinda

First of all, just because your man is in Australia doesn't mean that he has, shall we say, secular values.

The problem with Australia and Western Europe with Muslim immigration is that they are too afraid to integrate them into their society, for a couple of reasons.

1) These two places do not have the extensive experience that Americans have with different cultures and have remained largely homogenous.

2) The reality is, Belinda, the government and the left are scared of hurting their feelings. There are exceptions, but when I see even feminists bending over backwards to accomodate strict Muslim conservatism while shaking their fingers at Jews and Christians, it's a double standard for one, and what it tells me as from political analyst point of view is that they need the Muslims in order to stay in power and have influence on the world stage.

The effect of non-integration is that the Muslims tend to feel marginalized. They don't FEEL Austrailan. Part of the problem is I think so many left-wingers in the West and First World don't have national pride in their own country and culture (you can thank the "education" system for that), so why would the people immigrating there have it?

Regarding your relationship, if your man is angry a lot, he's not likely to change. It's really not just a Muslim man thing, it's a people thing. The secular agnostic I dated via distance was pretty much the same, Belinda, and it really is a drain.

Some Muslim men (the Islamists especially) want complete control. The reason for this is insecurity and to make sure the family doesn't stray away from Islam. It's supposed to be a cultural safety net, but in reality it just makes life for the woman miserable in a lot of cases.

In some cases, you wouldn't even be allowed to have male friends as far as he's concerned, and the reality is, men like that are quite dominant. As I said, even the feminists are yielding to them.

I thought it was interesting how you mentioned your mother, and that suggests to me that you are thinking "well, maybe this could work, if she put with it, I guess I can."

But really, Belinda, no one deserves that. At this point, it doesn't even matter what ethnicity he is. So, please, don't use that as an excuse to stay.

I think really what you need to seriously ask yourself

1) Is worth all the headache and arguement, can you REALLY live with someone like that?

2) Would you put with this behavior from an Australian man? Or are you overlooking his flaws because he's different.

Listen, I know you're reaction might be "well, there's bad or really just angry men in every culture.." Well, so what?

We aren't talking about having different tastes in music and ice cream, being angry and possessive in a relationship spells trouble. It happens a lot even with non-Muslim men.

Personally, I don't know too many women who would put up with an insecure guy like that. And even as a guy, I have to say it is very annoying when that happens. The question is, how long are you willing to put up with it?

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