To Anon1...I don't agree with your opinion

Submitted by Lisa from USA (United States), Sep 12, 2008 at 10:54

Anon1..... I aprreciate you being concerned. I really do and you are right cause my Moroccan has told me himself that he sees a lot of Moroccan men trying to leave Morocco by getting with women....He has even had women from Spain to approach him to exchange money for marriage and he does not want to marry in this manner.....He has been nothing but honest with me from the beginning and so have I...We both trust each other...We have to be able to do so for this relationship to work.....Im not saying it will be easy cause both he and I have discussed these issues and we both have agreed to have patience with one another in understanding each's cultures.....He is not the poor Moroccan you described, but if he is not "rich" in his dad's eyes...he considers himself to be poor.....He is well educated...has a 4 year degree in Economics and does accounting type work but has also trained/worked as a medical rep which he did not like..and he lives with dad/mom/sisters but lives in a palace size home (I have seen pictures of him at home in various rooms and he talks with me from his bedroom which is near a beautiful garden complete with an expensive water fountain and sidewalk....and his dad has money but is selfish and puts a person's value on how rich a person is which this son hates cause he sometimes feels unloved by his own father.....as far as dating Moroccan girls...he says in his opinion, they look for riches and if you have money and car and no one there looks to see what is in your heart like he says I have... cause I can accepted him as poor but really his poor is not USA's poor. He once lived with a Moroccan girl while in his studies for 4 years and he felt they both loved one another but in the end, her mom wanted her to marry this rich man and she left him to marry this rich man and she now has children by this rich man and he tells me it took him a lot of years to get over her and since he was once talking to a lady from Miami, Fl USA but she would send him pictures from a bar everytime on her cell and she would be standing next to a man so he felt she was being dishonest....he tells me she still e-mails but he does not answer her in hoping she will go away cause he doesn't want to come out and hurt another persin cause this woman offered to come and live with him in Morocco.....He did not have to tell me any of this personal life and he is not a person that usually blah blahs like I do,lol so i can assure you I trust this man 100 %.....He wants nothing from me but my love and he knows besides a decent job, I have nothing to offer him but my love and just being here for him.....We are trying to understand the Visa thing through me researching sites on line, he has no clue what we need to do to be together so I can assure you as intelligent as he is, if he was a con artsist wanting his Visa here he would know what we need to do after we are married and yes we talked marriage and I think I am the one who proposed to him,lol....we tossed idea in air and have played everything by ear and even though I am going there in November, I still have gave him the chance to "Walk away" but he asks me" Baby why would I want to?" I love you....He says I am his whole world and his heart....and for your concern of his address, police report, etc....He gave me his address this year early on cause it was his b'day and I mailed him a couple of shirts and he wanted a hand written letter from me (he says something i had touched) and he wanted to smell my perfume,lol. and he keeps all this by his bed...he has walked away from cam to retrieve it.....He does not hide his feelings toward me...We are both honest and open with one another...He tells me things about his life/chidhood and I do the same.....Luigi posted something about not knowing him through cam from not being able to actually "Touch" one another...I can assure you that through daily web-cam visits in each's bedroom you learn a lot about each other and from his expressions, eye lifts etc...I know when he is about to say something well "naughty" and I can tell when he is upset with something at home all through looking into his eyes and face so please don't tell me you can't learn enough from someone to know if the person is a good/honest man or woman....and as much as I assure him it will not happen, he thinks there is this possibility that I may walk away from him once I am there and not marry cause he thinks Im beautiful and in his eyes perfect and he has low self esteem and doesn't feel he is anything but "average" looking...we both are attracted to one another and we both feel that our lives have crossed for a reason and he feels I am a gift from Allah but I think he is my gift....and we playfully argue over this, and in middle of any of our conversations I can look up and he is propped on elbow with hand on his face just watching me with so much admiration and love 9I can tell he is just as much in love as I am with him)and you can see the love and same as I feel , we just want to be together and touch and well you know, other things....I will end this story by saying if you do not give love a chance, you may not ever experience true love and I feel in my heart that he is my life partner and the feelings are mutual so we are both praying that this will work cause I do not want a divorce and I will do everything different this go around to make it work....I have heard from others being negative " Lisa, you go to this 3rd world country, and he will cut your head off...... to I will be sold as a sex slave,lol...to people calling him a "sand nigger" just because he is not white american and muslim and darker skin.. and also 'what if he stinks,lol" ...People can be so mean and well "stupid".....I have learned through all this, people are quick to judge others that are different from our own society/culture/religion and people are forgetting we all are human and have feelings and we have our own lifes to live as we choose to live it...Its my happiness and what I read here will not convince me to walk away from his love and besides, I want to give this man a better life. Isn't that part of what love is all about?

During this entire 9 month relationship, his character toward me has always been "do what you think is good for you baby"...there is no pressure of me coming there and he will easily come here if I want him too....He has left it totally up to me....but I want to visit his country and learn a little bit about him his culture and of course meet his family....He is helping me with expenses cause he knows I sometime struggle here in my own country....I will go there for 15 days and I will share my love with him and also leave him wanting more of him and yes I will be sad to leave him but I also know he has patience to wait to be with me even if it takes two years...There are plenty of beautiful/rich women out there so he does not have to settle for me so yes he is "Mr. Right" and "Too good to be true". Oh and one other thing...Im not ignorant to Muslims ways....our local store is ran by gusee whoo right here in USA??? answer....a Moroccan/American family who gives me advice...They travel every summer to visit and yes they are celebrating ramadan as well...Very nice men,,,Infact I like their character better than the American wife's,lol....so really, not all Moroccan's are bad...we all have bad among our societies and countries....look at your local news.....so I will end this by saying wish us the best cause we will have to work hard at it but with love/ understanding/ and communication...I really think this can work and I can easily convert to Islam.....sorry I wrote a book here but I wanted to share with others that may doubt from reading others negative stories....I believe in love stories...Lisa from USA

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