Angie-Quick Marriage

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 14, 2008 at 11:02

hi Angie:

Thank you for sharing that, Angie!

There's really not a lot that's been said in both of your posts, but I really hope that you'll share information with us so we can help you out. So, please correct me if the details about your relationship are incorrect, and please understand that no one who posts on here regularly is out to judge, we want to help, and it's understandable that talking about your personal life on a blog can be an invasion of privacy, but its important to know a few things.

Well, I'm going to assume that is a distance, on-line relationship because you say "talking".

First of all, no matter what the case, Angie, this isn't good. The fact that you've come on here, and you seem to feel alarmed for some reason, says a lot in and of itself. I feel like you are trying to say that this is a lot more than just butterflies, and you are most certainly normal to feel this way, Angie.

If you need third party confirmation for a marriage, then it's a bust pure, plain and simple.

And really, assuming this is long-distance, talking about marriage after 9 months??? That is wayyyy too soon for anyone, even in person for most people.

Look, Angie, I know it's never fun or easy to hear that your relationship isn't the real deal, but please understand that marriage is NOT the finish line. You may have read the actual blog that Dr. Pipes wrote, well it's true, but a in a lot cases, the marriage breakdown happens over a period of time.

If there is a big age difference here, that's also a problem.

He may not be asking for money, but does he give sob stories and other gestures that make you feel like giving? I think it's pretty rare for people to ask for money.

Listen, Angie, this is pretty silly when you think about it. This is your life, and you MUST take control, ok? I can understand how you feel about this man, but in reality, there's much more here than meets the eye.

I hope you'll get back to me if you need anything else.

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