LISA

Submitted by Keri (Canada), Sep 15, 2008 at 20:18

Lisa, I just read your last post with all the emails... Can I tell you that they are EXACTLY like ALL the emails that I've ever received from my Moroccan?

Lets see:

• kiss to your kids too bye my heart ... I love your kids so much
• even without any real touch you are always in my mind and heart and you keep the best place now ....and i hope you will always keep it cause really my heart needs someone to live in it ...
• and im happy every thing is in the right way with us we must just pray and god will do the rest im sure for that baby ....

• baby i was here hoping see your beautiful face before i go out but i think your working or sleeping..anyway my rose i will be here at night ...i love you and thanx for your sweet emails ...im sure everything will be ok with us and we will spend happy moments together and forever ...kisss i love you more and more ..bye for now my heart xxxx

• ...baby i love you and all i hope is to be with you you are good for me you know!!! and i like your caracter a lot im sure we will not have problems sharing our life together .....take care of your self p^lease and send me sweet email when you will read this ....i love you

• love you more and more and dont worry my love i dont care of what they said just ..love me more and more kisss muahhhhhhh..kiss to your kids too bye my heart

• ...my love i need you in real more and more and i want us together soon for our hapiness cause really i feel that u are the woman of my life and that a lot of things will work with you cause i love you and you are honest woman too .....

Really Lisa, I am not joking. The same man could have written them both.

The best thing I EVER did was to go online and find a 19 yr old boy to talk to. I was very clear with him that I would never date him, but that I wanted to be a friend only. He knew that as a 19 yr old the government would NEVER approve for him to come to Canada, so he was willing to talk to me as a friend.

I told him all about my man. Sent him copies of MSN, emails, etc.... Lisa, he was able to finish the words before I could. He told me all about the games, lies, cultural norms, etc... that the men play. For example, he told me that even though a man might have a #1 woman in his heart and mind, that it was acceptable to play with other women too as long as you did not get them pregnant. He told me stories of young guys who go in together and rent apartments so that they can take their women there for sex. He himself had 3 different Moroccan women that he regularly rotated through the doors.

Test him. Have other women contact him. I will bet you a dollar he takes the bait. Although he will be smart because he will wonder why a woman is contacting him. Just bide your time, and his true colors will come out. Then when you confront him and ask him why he was talking like that with other women and why he did not tell them about you, he will say, "Baby, I wanted to know her game. I can't tell her about my personal life".

Honest to god, my moroccan told me, "Even the King of Morocco wants out". Morocco IS a beautiful country. The food, culture, exotic"ness" is like something I have never experienced, but your man is a liar when he tells you there is no crime. BS! Women can be jailed if they are found to be having sex without marriage. Police can be bribed.

The men are not used to working. They send their sisters out to work. A hard day's work for the man is 4 hours, then they go to the cafe and sit around and smoke the hooka all night while the wives, mothers, girlfriends are at home. When my Moroccan won the Lottery and got to the USA, he was appalled that he had to work 8 hour days. "It's soooo hard...I work like a dog for nothing but rent and food".

Take my advice... go online and hook a young guy... be straight with him. Ask him about the men there. He will be honest with you if he knows that there is not a chance between you and him. If you are in your 40's, ask him to call you "mum". If he does, he respects you, and will not try anything with you.

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