Once again, Hisham, good post

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 17, 2008 at 18:19

Welcome back, Hisham!

That's very noble of you to suggest that you would not support a fellow citizen on deceit, but unless I am terribly mistaken, I would bet that most Egyptians--Coptics and Muslims----would not approve of the behavior of the men discussed on this board.

In fact, many Moroccans have posted on here and have not hesitated to express their disgust with how these men act.

Ironically, it's Western women in these relationships who are the only ones defending the men.

It's interesting how you talk about women flying for sex. Hisham, these are called "sex vacations". Western men go all over the world for this---Brazil, Cuba, Phillipines, Thailand, Russia, Amsterdam, London, even the Middle East. I know of hotels in Kuwait and Syria, and one person even said he was with dozens of women in the Sudan.

The general pattern of women in the West is that they are merely following the man's lead. For instance, have you noticed that many women on this forum are divorced with children and usually over 30? Dating men from the Middle East was not their first choice. The converse is also true. I've talked a lot about communication on here, and good communication (because we communicate by space, time and body mostly) really requires proximity.

Here in the USA, more men date outside the culture and race than women. Women, I think, look for men in the Middle East in the case of this board because they feel they can't find a descent Western man who can commit. There are plenty of nice Western guys out there, but many of them seem to be content to mope in pity than to actually try new things to attract a woman.

A similar trend has emereged in Europe. European men look to date internationally, and because there are more women than men, there are less and less available, especially due to destructive social changes, so they are more or less "forced" to look elsewhere.

That's the real story behind most of the posts on here, I would say.

On the other side, I would advise Western women: If you REALLY want a nice guy and aren't just saying it because it sounds nice or politically correct, then it will probably mean tolerating a few mistakes on the first couple of dates and taking a chance with someone who won't make you fall out of your chair at first glance.

Unforunately, Hisham, it is painfully clear to me at this point the notion that all women don't care about appearance is a myth. What's the first thing that you notice on an on-line dating profile? Pictures!!! That's why dating sites claim you're hits will increase by a factor of 10 or more if you have photos. Some do, some don't, but more than we as men may think probably do. It's also obvious on this board. Just look at the necessity to mention the race of the men, how handsome they are, and in some cases whether or not their race makes them good in bed (note: premartial sex is a bad idea).

I have said many times that race and religion have little to do with this, but islamophobia (which isn't even a word) and racism are pretty much the front-line of defense for those who go trolling around showing off their relationship.

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