Re; Isis on talking sense

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 19, 2008 at 09:11

Hi Isis

Thanks for the response

No, I don't talk "nonsense" Luigi . My Egyptian man & I have always talked "sense". You must understand though that romance is a very big part of middle eastern culture, music, literature and life. Much, much more than the west.

Despite any negative experiences you or anyone else may have had with Western men, there are plenty of men here who are nice and romantic. Unfortunately, many women in the West are more concerned about appearance and a six-pack than that, and some of these nice guys would rather mope and complain than try new things to get a hot date. I don't think a lot of men realize it, but the idea that no women here care appearance is a total myth. It painfully shows on here as seemingly every time the nationality of the guy needs to be mentioned (it really it makes little difference) or the idea that he is handsome.

I think that your comparison on romance is absolutely correct, though, simply because the Western media, which is what music and literature are a part of, it more interested in, the final result of romance, shall we say. It's really a driving force behind what happens on here. It certainly shows in our social attitudes.

Those e-mails and arguments that Lisa has posted may have given you hope, Isis, but I've heard all that before myself. "oh, baby, I love you, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks."....bla bla bla. Her Moroccan man has the same attitude as some of the women on here: "Moroccan girls only want rich guy with status." Kind of sounds like "Western men only want sex."

I wouldn't want to date someone who shuns everyone else in their own culture just to be with someone different and feel good about it.

What it comes down is if you're trying to sell someone on something, you're not going to reveal yourself to be an angry, belligerent person with an agenda. Those e-mails? They're nothing but good customer service to say it nicely, or you could just say bait.

The biggest concern I have is women coming on here, and seeing arguments like that or that "there are good and bad men everywhere" and they'll just think they've found the good one. Everyone on here in Lisa's situation wants to think that, and the numbers just don't add up.

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