To anonymus - his stories are not original

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Sep 22, 2008 at 07:15

He's a waiter in a resort city, possibly Sharm (guessing here) and he has no money and no job and is in hospital. I have heard it all before - these waiters are notorious for charming women and they see western women as a meal ticket to a better life. I don't believe the story about not being able to go back to his family either. Egyptians are very family orientated so he would never be cast out of the family circle. The "I'm in hospital" is always a good sympathy line too.

He possibly is a very nice man but the over whelming and helplessness of being being poor is always a factor in their ploy to charm western women as they can never see themselves getting out of being poor However in saying that, if he didn't have money, friends would support him as he would them if was able to help them in the same situation. Western wives are aways a bonus as they usually come with a healthy bank balance - or so they think. They see westerners on holidays in these resorts spending to their heart's content and think that is the normal way that we behave in everyday life. Young Egyptian males from these areas aren't necessarily interested in a visa out of the country as they are aware how hard it is to get into western countries but they would like to have some easy money behind them.

Please don't condemn him, but just explain to him that you are not prepared to send him money and that he needs to at least help himself. He has experience in the hospitality industry and if his contract has ended at one place he should not have much a of a problem getting a tenure somewhere else.

The bank balance thing could explain why he was devasted when you wouldn't marry him. 10/10 for keeping your head.

All the best.

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