Banita, men lie

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 22, 2008 at 20:26

Hi there Banita! Wow, thanks for sharing!

I think your post really illustrates that even when you see someone in person, cultural differences are still an issue.

That aside, what bothers me the most is the fact that he kind of hid the fact that he was married from you, although they are seperated, they are still legally tied together, and the fact that you found out from the wife does not bode well.

What I want you to ask yourself, Banita, is would you tolerate this from a Belgian or American man? You know your situation, you see him in person and can interact. It's been 9 months.

If your answer is sincerely no, then I think you have an even bigger problem.

The fact that he dated you while still married.....I don't like the sound of that. If this man cheated on his wife, however unhappily married he was, he is bound to do it again. That's not a cultural issue, it's a people issue, one that is seriously tearing at the fabric of civilization. I would not be surprised at all if he did the same to you.

The other thing to be concerned about is that men sometimes will not reveal their real views on religion for fear of losing the girl. This is especially the case in Europe, where EU women don't care that much about religion.

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