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lisa -your story is the same as the othersReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by pansy (Morocco), Sep 23, 2008 at 09:46 why can't you see it? We all say "my Mohammed is different". The western women who live here laugh about this syndrome MMD - we laugh at ourselves for having fallen for it initially and then we laugh at all the incomers who are falling for it. What else is there to do? At first we try to give advice to these innocents but then we get tired of hearing the same old story and tired of giving advice to people who won't listen. Then, we have to listen to the innocent who has been wronged by the lying, cheating b------. ad nauseum!!!!!! We all want to believe it in the beginning. It can't possibly be true that such a large percentage of a population can be such good actors and successful liars. IT IS TRUE! Your Mohammed doesn't like the fact that his father has 2 families - could it be because the money has further to go rather than because he has to divide himself between 2 homes? You don't have to have money to be interesting to a moroccan man. The fact that you are western gives him status. Moroccan people do not believe it is possible to be western and poor (no matter how much you protest) because we have connections to the other world and our Governments will always support us. My MMD wasn't bad but he still managed to be unfaithful constantly - under my nose (with the neighbour, for one) I didn't see it because I couldn't even have imagined that he would do such a thing. He loved me (i still know that he did) but his values are completely different. He didn't care about the age difference. We lived together for 8 years (full time, in his country) we knew one another inside out but I still didn't notice. I am well-educated and so was my man. He was also genuinely respected by his community, so much so, that it was ok for him to cheat and nobody ever told me until our relationship was over. I don't have money. He didn't care where we lived - until the day I threw him out after finding text messages from a woman. Then it all came out - He hated the way we lived, everything was my fault! He didn't care how I looked, I was beautiful - until the day I was too scruffy (by Moroccan standards, ie I didn't have glossy, polished shoes) and he grabbed me by the hair, shoved me face in front of the mirror and said "look at yourself, you are disgusting!!!" He didn't mind me talking to other men - He understood that this is normal in our society and I never gave him reason to be jealous - until the day he flipped and beat me black and blue, around the head because I danced with a 65 year old English man in a very unsexy way. I, too, look young for my age, I have a sporty appearance and people say I'm good-looking. He used to say that I was 14 not 40 because of my attitude to life. He used to say that he didn't want children but I'm sure he has taken a Moroccan woman now and will start a family. Your man can say he doesn't want them and then change his mind later because he is a man (different body clock) and because he is a muslim (enshallah!) You have to believe in your man, I know. The only reason why we post on here is to help other women to avoid making the same mistakes - it is not through bitterness. This is a reality, experienced by most women who start a relationship with a Morcoccan/arab/muslim. Yes, they are lovely people but they are different! I have yet to meet a Moroccan who has felt the pure pleasure of giving (physically or emotionally) without expecting to receive. I feel very sorry for them. They can't even give way on the road - too selfish! You don't have to listen to me or anyone else but just remember some of the advice a few years down the line. We wouldn't even say "I told you so", just hope that you will see the signs earlier because you have read these posts. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". << Previous Comment Next Comment >> Reader comments (21922) on this item
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