Reply to Banita

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Sep 24, 2008 at 08:24

You are on the right track Banita. This is definitely a cultural issue here. Mothers are the matriach of a middle eastern family and if he hasn't told his family about you it is because he fears the resultant turmoil because he is with a non-muslim.

Not much can be done to ease the situation because it is an age old cultural thing. I have accepted it in my situation and I don't make a point of wanting to see my man's mother. My man is a peace maker too and he doesn't like to cause or be involved in issues which can cause unhappiness or grief. My advice would to be to lrt it ride for a while and not put too much pressure on him to go one way ot another. Maybe over time the pressure may ease and he may be able to broach the subject of YOU with his mother and sister.

Good luck

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