babygirl, he is playing games; MSN, on-line chat, Muslim man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 24, 2008 at 18:09

Hi babygirl! I'm glad you took the time to share that!!

Here's the issue: If he is on-line and not speaking to you, then he's talking to someone else. I would bet real money in Vegas he has other women, even besides the one next to him. Also, not good that he tried to HIDE her from you, which is probably why you could only see half his face.

I've encountered the exact same thing before with an American woman I was dating long distance. We would be talking on-line, and then she would stop. Excuses like "I fell asleep, or I was just doing laundry and talking to my friends."

It's usually total nonsense, and there's nothing more frustrating about it than when someone ignores you like that.

The other problem here is him getting angry. He could be acting like this just to get you to say
"okay, okay....I believe you." That is an idea commonly used by scammers, one I encountered with talking to a woman from Suriname and another from Nigeria. As soon as I asked probing questions, they tell me that I am being rude, trying to place the blame on me.

My advice is to move on and find someone else. You should not have to worry about this in a relationship, it is not worth your time and energy, and it's usually a sign that deeper motives and problems exist.

Remember, you're only getting about 30% of the communication you can get in person over the net, a little more with webcam, but the video quality and timing add to the difficulty.

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