lies I've learned from

Submitted by keri (Canada), Sep 24, 2008 at 19:15

What I've learned is that these men have culturally been conditioned to lie. They will turn on their best friends in the blink of an eye. It's an "every man for himself mentality"... with one difference: They are socially "graceful". They are polite, careful in their words, and charismatic. They are cunning. They measure their words carefully. It is the closest thing to cultural sociopathy that I have seen. They will not let their friends know that they are angry at them. It's passive-agressiveness at its finest. Once "out" of morocco, they almost like to see each other struggle in life. Its sick.

They may not follow Islam except to observe Ramadan. They drink, smoke (although not technically halal, its obvious that it hurts the body), and have sex outside of marriage. However, even asking a question and saying, "that does not make sense to me" can bring out anger and defensivness. The beauty about our Christian faiths is that we are allowed to question our leaders and hold them accountable. We can question doctrine. They cannot. They only know the Koran because it was part of daily recitation. They are not encouraged in critical thought. They are encouraged to lie if it will "protect" islam.

One thing I've learned is to listen. Maya Angelou says "Believe a man when he tells/shows you what he is." My man often said, "I am not good in islam". Of course I had no idea what he meant until all the lies came out.

My former boss is muslim. She is from Pakistan and is an educated woman.
Her father is liberal and wanted his daughters to be successful. They were able to choose their husbands. Even she warns about marrying a muslim man. She studies Islam, and questions Iman's and chooses to stay. This is not about the religion, or about making deragatory remarks about it. This is about how the men we fall for use it to condone their bad behavior.

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