Very similar situation

Submitted by Angelazul198 (United States), Sep 26, 2008 at 19:10

Hello, I am a Colombian woman living in USA. I had met my Tunisian lovely man about in May but we have been officially dating since July. We feel very attracted to each other ahh both of us are 27 years. I am a teacher and he's a computer programmer. We feel very in love with each other. We talk every day, send e-mails, send sms, etc. I am coming to Tunisia in December. I was raised Catholic and went to a Catholic school for girls in Colombia. Now, although I believe in God, I don't consider myself catholic anymore. I don't have a bit of a problem if my children are raised muslims because I know that Islam in Tunisia doesn't permit mistreatment to women, poligamy or other things that don't let women be free. The only would be that they cannot marry a man who is not muslim unless they convert to Islam. He respects that I believe in God and Jesuschrist. He hasn't asked me to change my belifs I consider myself Baptist now.

I think that the most important in this case is that you agree on things from the beginning. Decide about celebrations, talk about it. I also recommend you to read about Tunisian laws and the Qu'ran. That's how I could understand better about Islam. There are beautiful things that I match with the Christian bible. At least in that country, they don't change the word of Alá in the Qu'ran to step negatively on women. One example of agreement is that I told my boyfriend that if we get marry, I don't think that I would be able to do Ramadan and my children will suffer a lot because it would be another country. He said, "I know amorcita, you don't have to do it", sometimes we are chatting I am eating...(I stop because I don't want him to feel hungry). ut the point is that, you should try to understand each other, love each other and take decisions.

My boyfriend is very open minded and I don't mind about his religion because I know he repects me and sees me as his companion, his partner, his friend, his (not yet) lover. Love is more powerful than language, religion, and ethnical group. I speak Spanish and he Arabic, I speak regular French and he speaks regular English; so I speak English-French and he speaks to me in French-English and we are still very very very commited to each other. I say give it a try!!!! 6 weeks is fantatic! very close! I still have to wait 12 weeks to see him =(

It's a very romantic story like yours. I also thought ath the beginning that it was too good to be truth, but I had many experiences in my life, including online dating. This is the first time I feel so good. I think I met the person I want to be with. As long as he respects opur relationship, our future marriage, respects me and follows the laws of his religion which I love because marriage is very respected, it's sacred; I am happy. =D

Please feel free to contact me and we can share our experiences.

=D Good luck!!!

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