it might not be a red flag!

Submitted by Katy (United Kingdom), Sep 28, 2008 at 19:12

Hi there. I read about your comments about your guy finding reasons for not accepting or viewing your camera. I understand your concern as i also went through this situation with a man from morocco. I would get terribly upset and jealous if he would not accept my camera invite. I kept thinking why doesnt he want to see me live? He would send me an invitation to view his camera....that was never a problem as he would either be at home or internet cafe.

But on the rare occations he would accept mine, suddenly he would decline for no apparent reason. i became very paranoid that maybe he had another woman or sumthing that he was trying to hid me from. I started to ignore him after awhile because of this...however love got the better of me and i went to his country to meet him for real. What i learnt from him is that when a muslim man is serious about you he can become extremely overprotective. Bordering on the point of insanity.

Towards the end of my holiday i asked him about his behaviour towards the camera. I was shocked at his reply. He told me he didnt want his friends to see me when they were at his house or with him in the internet cafe in case they noted my msn address and started chatting to me and maybe break up our relationship. He is fiercely protective and easily gets jealous if he thinks guys are looking at me when we go out. Sounds to me like ur man is the same as mine, hes probably scared to lose u and is thinkin all kinds of irrational thoughts. Thats why he doesnt want u to use ur cam. Some ppl may say this is a total red flag warning and to walk away now. I was told the same by my friends and family. However i trusted my instincts and travelled from england to morocco to see him. We have been happily married for 2 years now and i have no regrets or complaints about him watsoever! u no ur man best trust ur feelings on this, and bare in mind not all muslim men are after a visa or money, some just want to settle down in a loving stable relationship like we do.

I wish u the best of luck! :)

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