red flags

Submitted by friend (United States), Sep 30, 2008 at 08:47

I justed started looking at this site-I know what you mean about these guys giving you an unexplained weakness. I met a Turkish man and didn't even look twice, actually I did b/c he was unattractive and looked twice to see how unattractive, yet he took that as me admiring him and next thing you know I was pulled in b/c of his charm and his words and I don't know what!?! But it got me. I still can't figure what it is, but I hate it and love it. Anyway though, all these comments are sooo familiar. Like the girl before, I am glad to read the comments b/c I don't want to have a relationship with him-I know better, but the "maybe I could" still tugs at me and I try to tell myself that maybe everything would be wonderful. I am glad to see this site to remind me that it is not so and to pull me back into reality. I think I saw the red flags in my head even though I wanted so bad to dismiss them but it is ALL the same things-they just sound cute and sweet and innocent when they try to explain b/c "I" am sooo wonderful (which is a red flag too b/c I am really not as wonderful as I want to believe I am). It is hard to do away with the adoring words but it might be best in the long run.

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