Hizham Zein your advice plz

Submitted by anonymus (United Kingdom), Oct 5, 2008 at 08:29

hi , as you are egyptian man do you think egyptian man of 29 can love much older woman? He wants to marry after 1 year, i have seen him 4 times in holiday. Next time he wants me to get married? i am afraid he may not be with me for his love although he tels me he loves me and wants to be with me. Because he is muslim he dosnt like that we are dating. He cannot understand when i tell him i need to wait, he thinks i dont have enough feelings for him but i do. His family keep asking why i wont get married to him yet.?

I am feeling the pressure now and I am thinking about it. The culture is so different but i dont want to lose him. Because he is from resort area I have to wrestle with my mind as i sometimes label him a player, I dont want to be one of several women who is going to se e him, he disappeared for 7 days with one text saying he was in hospital but he could not call because he had no credit , he is not working at present and i assumed he was having holiday with another . I text him some really harsh words and he text me to say its over but then he called and carried on as normal and did not mention what i had said to him! I have broke it off before because i am older but i missed him so much it affected my life here. i cant have children, i feel all odds are against me and i will lose him anyway because of my age. I feel so emotionally involved and foolish to feel this way, but I need to speak to someone as I cant talk to anyone here.

My family are concerned but now wont talk about it. My head tells me to finish it but my emotions wont let me, he has been in my life every day for a year and i will miss him terribly, he is so calm and never gets angry, i am the one with all the frustrations, i now wonder if he is not that bright or just clever? what do you think? thanks for listening.

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