Hisham I need advice

Submitted by kralya (United Kingdom), Oct 6, 2008 at 09:04

Hi Hisham

I thought I'd ask for some advice from you, from an Egyptian perspective. First of all, I'm a girl of 18 and I fell in love with an Egyptian boy of my age. He has a good heart, this I know. I have a good instinct and I know that he genuinely likes me, but unfortunately our meeting was cut short due to a misunderstanding. He respects me and knows that I'm stubborn and quite cold... lol.

So when I came back from Egypt I started to miss him, and I decided to contact a man who lives near this boy, to pass a message on. When I met this man I had a bad feeling about him, in fact I knew immediately that he wasn't a "good" guy. I didn't trust him and found him sleazy. Anyway, he told me that the boy I fell for has gone to the army for 4 years. Then he told me 3 years. I personally didn't believe him, he tells a different story every time.

This is the worse part. When ramadan finished, he started making perverted, sexual comments on the phone and insulted his German wife, calling her a "cow". He obviously hates women, but I don't care about him. What I want to know is if it is considered acceptable for a man (about 40 years old) to flirt with a teenager like this? He has a teenage son. And do you think he is lying about the boy?

Every time I talk about the boy, he gets jealous, even though I made it clear that I don't like this menopausal fool. I think he is taking advantage of my vulnerability. I'm furious that he lied in front of my family, and treated me like a daughter... and now this! It's not normal!

Thanks

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