Yeah, that's a good point

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 10, 2008 at 16:48

Generalizations really won't solve anything, but there's really only so many ways to say things, and I suppose I'll have to try to say it better.

What I was trying to say is that it's not good to expect a relationship with someone who is significantly younger than you are, especially if you are an older woman.

The reason I say this, Leesa, is because one of the excuses on this board is uniqueness. Some posters want to think that they are one of the lucky ones, and they tell me things like "There are good and bad people everywhere" or "not all X men are bad." Therefore, my relationship is real. It's flawed logic.

The trend of healthy, long-term relationships in any culture between a younger man and older woman just is rare compared to the opposite. That's just the numbers, Leesa, and the facts don't lie. With some of the age gaps talked about on here, I would even advise against such relationships even in their own culture, for their own protection, more or less. A lot of men my age simply feel that divorced women make for an easy score. I really don't know how to gloss that over. It's sick, if you ask me, not because of the age difference, but because they are taking advantage, and some women in your situation, Leesa, are more than happy to play the game, but it rarely amounts to more than just that: a fling.

The trend is increasing in Morocco, and just because they invite you to live in their country doesn't mean it's totally different. The man may just be looking for another wife to do on the side just so he can say he has a Western woman, or is looking for someone to do the chores.

I advise caution to anyone, no matter what the gender or race or religion, about getting involved with someone much older or younger in this modern era.

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