Very Well put Leesa

Submitted by Lisa from USA with the Moroccan Fiancee (United States), Oct 11, 2008 at 09:23

Very well put Leesa.....I totally agree.....I have been living single for 4 years and I am very independent and raising not just two girls but also still have a 22 yr old son at home... I will be 42 next month and my Fiancee from Morocco is 32 and my son had friends almost his age interested in me and I showed no interest because I was not desperate....Im an attracted woman and do not have to be.....but when I started corresponding with Mohammed he was much more mature than his age and so far these past 9 months have proved to be wonderful months. He has not yet raised one question that I have doubted. No red Flags....no asking of money....

We have no trust issues I trust him fully and he trusts me even with the ex coming around to visit the kids...i have met his mom, sisters and brother on line and even a neice and nephew which he is proud of and I will be visiting at the family home next month to meet his family in person.....If all goes as we think it will and we see we love each other even more while my stay in Morocco we are to be married during my stay or start initializing paperwork....I think I first talked about marriage myself because we have went over each's views and what we would like out of a marriage,,,,, It was my choice to do quick marriage in Morocco instead of USA but we will be renewing our vows in the USA and having a small wedding ceremony so my two daughters can attend....

.He doesn't want to be an illegal immigrant to the USA and we both agreed to be patient with the VISA wait....We are not sure which Visa to file since we will be married in Morroco...do we still do a Fiance Visa or a spouse visa. and which visa will take longer to get him home to the USA? Another question we have is once we are married he will have an automatic Visa Number given but if I understand correctly, there may be a waiting list for that particular visa filed and if so it could take ever how long until his name moves up the litst.....Can anyone help me with this info that has been through this......and despite what Luigi says...I know in my heart he is a good man but yes muslim but I have to say not all Muslims are bad or cheaters or scammers until proven otherwise.

Unless there is reason for me to doubt this man, I will stand by him and will gladly take him as my husband.....He is not what I call poor...but to him he is cause like me....he lives paycheck to paycheck and very little savings and he lives in his fathers home but here in USA it would be considered a mansion or a celibrity home.....I have seen much of home from a webcam and it is a beautiful home...breath-taking so he is one of the luckier Moroccans in his country.....He says he has no problem trading this lifestyle for a double wide manufactured home if it meant being with me and being happy....He is kind patient, has never raised his voice,never anything negative to say about anyone including my ex who is not the best supporter of his children but Mohammed will only say he feels sorry for him and his choices in life. Right now he is having some slight medical issue that may require some surgery and he is hoping to put surgery off until after I leave cause he feels he will not be himself since surgery will possibly take two months to fully recover.

He has some internal bleeding but before Lugi or anyone is quick to post against him...His brother in law is a surgeon and will be doing his surgery for free....some reason he feels he has to meet me first before surgery incase something bad happens to him....I tried to convince him to have surgery now but he will not have it unless his condition worsens,...He says we have waited too long to meet and I already had to postpone my visit once due to work schedule not getting approved....Before you say anything luigi cause I know you always follow my posts and have something negative to post I do not have anything to prove to you or anyone here with my explainations but i do want the women who stumble on this blog as I have to know that not all these men are bad.

Until proven differently I will stand by my Fiance' just as he trusts me and that I am a good person and I have to trust him too or this relationship will be doomed from the start and I will not let anyone destroy it...It will be at God's mercy or our faults but not by haters or people here who may have an axe to grind so to speak cause they were too naive to keep a watchful eye on their belove's behaviour and attitude and character......I will try and keep everyone posted after my trip Nov 21st.

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