Dear Anonymous

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 11, 2008 at 21:16

Anonymous:

Most of the women on here probably think "is it me?, am I being paranoid?" One of the reasons for that is because you aren't in person. Women are usually pretty good at picking up on male BS

Dramatic stories are bad news whether he is from sharm or not. See, both men and women who do that on-line do so for attention and in some cases to guilt-trip you into forking over money and gifts. People will rarely directly ask for money, and they usually make you feel obiliged to give it.

Trust me, anonymous, a lot of us on here have seen dramatic stories. The myspace woman I dated and whom I reference frequently, she was a drama queen. Threatening to commit suicide, calling me at 3 am in the morning after talking to her ex boyfriends.....ugh....annoying!

One time I signed up for a Catholic singles website, and over the course of three months, I had four women tell me use the word "hospitial" to cancel phone calls, dates, and appointments. Was it always true? Who knows for sure? It's usually not a good sign, though. I like to give the benefit of the doubt, but honestly, Anonymous, if you are looking to meet people who live far away on the internet, it's more of recipe for trouble than success.

People who do on-line dating do so for a reason. It's not like they just wake up one day and decide to do it.

I have observed that most of the women on this site are divorced, or are just fed upi with Western men. Dating someone from a different country wasn't thier first choice, it's just they want to be happy and meet a nice guy.

I actually had similar feelings after I turned 18, I was so fed up with women dating jerks and crooks and then wondering why they had their hearts broken, so I looked at dating sites for women in Latin American and Russia. Then I found out about all of the lies associated with this.

Anonymous, moving on from these is the hard part. On-line dating really doesn't seem fair to those of us who have had our hearts broken from this.

The BEST thing you can do is to get out and away from your computer, I mean, hang out with your friends, go see your family, uninstall instant messanger, block his number on your phone, just get out and do things. It will at least be a start, and that's what has helped me.

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