SLS: What is getting overlooked here

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 12, 2008 at 13:47

Hi SLS, thanks for sharing

The best advice I can give you for your situation is that marriage is by no means the finish line, especially since the both of you live in different countries. I've followed your threads with anon1, and this kind of sounds like a quick marriage, and even though you are both in your forties, if he is younger, that's something worth noting as a red flag.

SLS, it sounds to me like he wants to come to the USA to work and provide for his family, but that does not necessarily he loves you or that this will work out. Just because there is a marriage does not mean thier is love.

I don't think it really matters a whole lot that you are Black and Native; the fact is you are from a country of prosperity, and that's the key thing they look for. Age, race, relgion, that stuff doesn't matter in these cases.

I'm concerned here, SLS, and I don't like this cam excuse, either. I've issues with this as well in the past. This entire situation smells funny, and I realize you are married on paper, but are you married in your heart? It doesn't seem that way to me.

It's possible he will try and get a job here in the US, or he may just expect you to work and make the payments, there's no way to know to for sure right now, and I just don't like this at all, SLS, how this was rushed and his cam excuses. It does NOT add up.

Listen, even though you have strong feelings for him and are married, it's never too late to turn around.

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