to marry a muslim man or not

Submitted by sleepless in the states (United States), Oct 12, 2008 at 21:08

For about a year I have been talking to a man from Egypt. He is 16 years younger than me, a fact that I had kept from him until I really thought I got to know him. I am divorced and have children.

I am in a current relationship but not very happy. When I began talking to this man it was just on a friendly basis. As time went on and I began to learn things about him, I began to see what a nice guy he was. He had been through some real tough things in his life and I was happy to listen to him and maybe offer some encouraging words. We talked about so many different things for hours at a time, even going the entire day chatting. I had known for a little while that he had feelings for me. Although he didnt tell me until I asked him. He said he didnt feel right talking about his feelings for me while I was involved with someone.

But now he says he cant hold back his feelings for me and he wants to be with me and make me his wife. He wants me to come there or for him to come here. It didnt matter, as long as we were together. His father doesnt approve of me and has made him leave the family home because he talks to me and told his father he loves me. I feel so guilty now. The plan had been for him to finish his last year of school there and then come out here. I really havent found to much to make me be suspect of his story. Reading all of these is making me take a step back however. In the back of my head I had heard the stories playing over and over about how the men just want a Visa. But it didnt seem that way in my case. I dont know, but now I intend to slow things down a bit and just see what happens.

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