Response back to Luigi!!!!

Submitted by Lisa From USA (United States), Oct 13, 2008 at 19:19

So....then why are you dating someone who is ten years younger in a different country? The age difference IS a red flag, dear, and you said there weren't any? Think again!

First off, The age has nothing to do with why I am dating Mohammed. I could care less if he was 50 as long as he is a good man and like I said I have no doubts....Furthermore, you say you are 26 and not interested in a serious relationship with a much older woman. That is your preference but you CAN NOT speak for all young men...Inf act my step father was almost 10 years younger than my mom and he was with her happily for years until he passed away......I look 30 or less...Im told this all the time and sometimes I am mistaken for my son's girlfrnd when I am out in public with him....so for you to say its a RED FLAG because I am older he is younger...You do not know how this man feels about me or how much he is attracted to me...You know neither of us....

He doesn't have to ask for money. In fact, they rarely do. Instead, they usually try and guilt-trip you into offering. There's a key difference

Again...how many times do I have to say this man has never asked or nor have I had to offer any help with money! Guilt trip? What guilt trip? For 9 months he has not whined or acted like he has needed anything other than my love.

... This family lives in a home worth over $450,000 oh but I guesss that is not his home as well just cause he sleeps there and you are forgetting I am going there next month and I will meet his family in person and I have his half brothers wedding photos with him and sister and younger brother and entire family in them and guess what his brother married a French lady much older than me and he has money and is supporting her....but you say younger guys do not marry older ladies.....and he is not a Saudi...they are extreme Islamists...totally different from a Moroccan.

He is kind patient, has never raised his voice,never anything negative to say about anyone including my ex who is not the best supporter of his children but Mohammed will only say he feels sorry for him and his choices in life. Right now he is having some slight medical issue that may require some surgery and he is hoping to put surgery off until after I leave cause he feels he will not be himself since surgery will possibly take two months to fully recover.

If only I had a nickel everytime I heard the hospital excuse. Funny, I signed for up for a Catholic singles website once and in the course of three months got hit the "hospital/heatlh" excuse five times......It's really hard to tell if some of these are true or not. My aunt and uncle, who are now divorced, got married because my uncle wanted to get married and told her he had cancer and didn't have much time left. I really have to roll my eyes at that.

He has some internal bleeding but before Luigi or anyone is quick to post against him...His brother in law is a surgeon and will be doing his surgery for free....some reason he feels he has to meet me first before surgery incase something bad happens to him....I tried to convince him to have surgery now but he will not have it unless his condition worsens,...

Seems like he could be just trying to speed this along to get you to make a quicker decsion. Less time for you to think, then.

Its not an excuse...You are not always right! He is trying to hold out on surgery (internal hemmroid so nothing major) we already have had my vacation and abscence planned at work and ticket purchased "BEFORE" he went to the Doctor at my request to rule out any cancerous conditions because I was worried...His condition has absolutely nothing to do with our marriage plans....We are just hoping it does not cause us to have to wait til the new year to finish out our plans but if his condition is worse by Friday he will have the surgery and again his relative Doctor will do the surgery.....I already agreed to marry this man...he does not have no agenda to speed up anything.

If all goes as we think it will and we see we love each other even more while my stay in Morocco we are to be married during my stay or start initializing paperwork....I think I first talked about marriage myself because we have went over each's views and what we would like out of a marriage,,,,, It was my choice to do quick marriage in Morocco instead of USA

Quick marriage is that I am not requesting a Moroccan wedding! I have 15 days there!! This may not be enough time to even have the marriage and we are both fine with this if it does not happen this trip.....We have next year to finish planning.....I married my daughter's father at the courthouse so "quick marriage" lasted 20 years...i was not written to mean I have to marry him "RIGHT NOW"...so again you are constantly looking for red flags and there is none....

I will stand by him and will gladly take him as my husband.....He is not what I call poor...but to him he is cause like me....he lives paycheck to paycheck and very little savings and he lives in his fathers home but here in USA it would be considered a mansion or a celibrity home.....I have seen much of home from a webcam and it is a beautiful home...breath-taking so he is one of the luckier Moroccans in his country.....He says he has no problem trading this lifestyle for a double wide manufactured home if it meant being with me and being happy...

Yeah, that seems to get mentioned on here lately. I know of some webcam girls who go to a suite with desiganted rooms like that and charge men to talk to them on-line. The background setting is sometimes quite lavish...

again, you always have an answer don't you,lol....it was no lavish hotel!! His youngest sister was getting married and I got to watch the wedding from my cam...I have pictures of Mohammed when he was in college years at this same home.....no hotel setting and you keep forgetting I will visit this home...not some hotel.....His father is a wealthy man thus nice large home...one of the largest in El jadida.

I don't have to prove anything to do...You make your post and your ... opinions and I am entitled to show my side to rather you agree or not......I don't know you...I don't know anybody on this board but yet you want to tell me what is right for me because you had a fling on the internet that did not work out and you got with some cheating girl and you are only 26! You forget I have a 23 year old...You are a kid trying to tell grown women what is best for them because you say you have all this experience...plzzzzzzzz you have not been around long enough to know much about life experiences and until you are...then you come back and tell these 40 plus women what they should and shouldn't do and how ignorant they are being.....the fact is you want to "FINGER POINT" look at yourself....a person who has to always be right....have to have the last word......everyone else is stupid because only you know best,lol.......26 is way less immature than a 32 year old so don't tell me what he likes or doesn't like.....I would chose him any day over an arrogant -know it all jerk like you who just happens to be good with writing...so now i said it! Shame on me but I work with someone just like you....so annalyze this post too cause we all know you are good at tearing everything apart to benefit you and your beliefs. and by the way I just talked to my man and he is going to bed so I am sick of you always asking the ladies on here "oh where is your man while you post" well least they have one!!! Your lady saw you maybe as the jerk you are and knew to get away fast. So tear this apart all you wish because regardless mohmamed is a much better man than YOU WILL EVER "GROW UP" TO BE!!!!!! and you have a lot of growing up to do before you become this EXPERT on marriage and love that you so desperate think you know!!

Obviously, you are TRYING to prove something to me and to others on here and declare your love. I've seen this kind of thing before, Lisa. If you didn't have anything to prove, you would have no cause to look for this on-line . I'll bet that a search engine directed you to this site.

The reality is, you don't even know this man. You think you do, and you want me to sit here and applaud you, I'm guessing, but you CANNOT get to know someone for real until you spend a good deal of time with them IN PERSON.

ONLINE??? You're trying to justifty this engagement by meeting his family on-line? How do you even know they are his family? And if they are, they could be in this with him! You've read my posts, but have you read what Dr. Pipes wrote about what happens AFTER the marriage to the Saudi men happens---they do a complete 180 degree turn, and the family helps the man until you, Lisa, submit!

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