End the sleepless nights

Submitted by anon 1 (Morocco), Oct 14, 2008 at 03:15

NO NO NO NO NO NO .....I think that we are all provided with "nature support" some people feel "it's too good to be true" it often is ....some just have a gut feeling always listen to the gut feeling .......to consider marrying someone that you have met on line is not a good idea.....this man sounds like a real player ...he has already made you feel "GUILTY" now he has you hooked ....Guilty of what ????? His father does not approve .....are you sure ? A lot of parents dream for their children to marry a westerner get a US /canadian or European passport ....send money home every month...... these men often lie .........so just because he says something doesn't mean that it's true...ok he doesn't care if you come there or he comes to you .........Hey you have children ...what age ? I imagine if he is in school and you are 16 years older............your kids are probably still in school ......Good move on his part !!!!!!!!! of course it makes more sense for him to move to your country .....THAT IS HIS PLAN

So you have a house ? He could be returning to his country with half your property......I am sure that he will never respect you ..........if you are in a relationship now and considering marrying him .....in fact he will throw it in your face later....He will listen to all your complaints about your man and He will portray himself as having all the qualities your man is lacking.... beware!!!!!...now I could be wrong ..BUT ....if he is in school and his father does not approve...then who is going to pay for ...visa...wedding ...flight e.t.c ...please don't tell me that you are... ok if it's you ...........then he could be collecting visa money from lots of online lovers with no intention of leaving his country .....or................ he could be onto the old scam of you depositing a large sum into his bank account easier to get an educational fiancee or tourist visa,,,,,Because his father doesn't approve I imagine the wedding will be in your country!!!!! of course he will block the account !!!! try finding him or you money in six months time if he is scamming you this way .......Now if your answer is yes to the next question then i am 99% sure he is a player ...As he has left home are you paying his rent ....food ..clothes....etc if the answer is no then who is ??? not his father for sure ...so is it another online love or he is lying about leaving home ...FAMILY COME FIRST

Of course there is a 1% chance that he is going to arrive in your country...but even if it's the 1% it's going to cost you a lot of time and money to get him to your country.....if you are not muslim then I wouldn't think the marriage would work...... No don't do it close all communication with him forget about him ....don't give him the chance to justify anything he will justiy all of it and probably make you feel more GUILTY about doubting him.....think of your children ...now get a Good Nights Sleep ....get some counselling(cheaper than paying for his love) it will all become clear .....you might even get your "real" current relationship back on track ....LISTEN TO YOUR GUTS

You already know the answer you don't need to ask us ....good luck

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