USA Lisa... Keep an open mind

Submitted by Keri (Canada), Oct 15, 2008 at 00:50

Hi Lisa, I hope that it works out for you and your man. Truly, it would be nice if there was a true match made.

Sometimes I have similar thoughts about Luigi . I think, "Yeah yeah... 26. He thinks he knows it all. He had a bad relationship with an online girl who probably saw him as an easy mark...." However, despite what you may or may not think about him, listen to his message. Some of his ideas are antiquated and stereotypical. Some of his ideas are sexist. As a 39 yr old single parent I too, have no trouble dating younger men. I am considered attractive and look younger than my years. However, he has an ability to give you the "Cole's Notes version" to many of the scams that these men use. Listen with an open mind. Try not to be defensive. It took me two years and several meet ups to find out that my man was not who he made himself out to be. Mine won the Lottery to the US and I thought, "See he loves me for me.. he doesn't need a visa". Yeah, but he sure needed stability, a house, food and "time to relax".

Moroccan people don't even like to help each other. They "seem" very polite and gracious, and they try to tell you that their friends and family are very important, but when push comes to shove, they appear to revel in each other's discomfort. My man was allowed to stay with a man from his hometown for just 10 days when he arrived in the USA. He did not know a soul, and his greencard would not arrive for 3 months. The man who said he would help him basically threw him out on the street. My man has done the same thing to others. They have no problem "bailing" on roommates when they get a lead on a better job or cheaper rent. Their only allegiance is to themselves. Even their own mothers have no idea about the son's they raised.

These men have zero respect for Moroccan women and claim that all the women want is money.... the reason this is is because the women realize that the men are dogs and use their looks to get the biggest "dog" of the bunch. It is a complex , intertwined relationship of using each other for money, sex and looks. Even the upstanding, educated women are offered money for sex. Prostitution is HUGE in Morocco. The men know that the women can be bought, and the women ensure they are "bought" by the highest bidder. These same women will pretend they are virgins in order to appear more marriagable.

Just be carful Lisa. Sign a prenuptual agreement. What I have learned is that if you cannot or are unwilling to procreate and give them children, you are basically useless to them. They look at fatherhood as their "destiny", and raising of muslim children as their obligation.

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