I'm sorry about the jerk who hurt you, I'll go beat him up for you if you like....

Submitted by justathought (United States), Oct 16, 2008 at 16:10

Wow, that was a little harsh. I met my guy on a program on facebook that i joined to entertain myself while I was doing homework. As for being "uneducated" I was valedictorian of my class and I'm graduating in the top 10% of a major university in a microbiology degree. People can find love online, they can find it anywhere. My brother met his wife online, they are happily married with two kids. My uncle met his wife online and he they are happily married.

I wasn't looking for love online, I was just messing around. I may be young, but just because you meet someone online doesn't mean they are a bad person. The person you meet "sitting next to you" can lie to you just as easily, and say the things you want to hear. You just have to be careful. I know my man is for real because 1. He doesn't always tell me what I want to hear and he keeps all his promises to me, 2. I'm poor, he's definitely not wanting to marry me for money, 3. He wants to live in Turkey, so he's not after my green card, 4. I'm a virgin and I told him we aren't having sex until marriage and he's OK with that. 5. Its not me that is obsessing over him, its the other way around. He's always writing, getting online to talk to me, asking me what happened if I don't communicate with him.

You also seem to think that taking risks aren't good things. Maybe I'm just brave, but I'd go for something I want and risk losing it all, just for the possibility of gaining everything. The best things in life are the ones you had to sacrifice for. I don't know....I've had my heart broken before, it took me a long time to get over it, but I DID GET OVER IT. And so I know that I could do it again if that were the case. You are telling me that you shouldn't take a chance for love just because you might get hurt?

And yes Mr. Charming is so very cute, inside and out. Of course...it takes one to know one. ahaha....anyway, I've never dated anyone based on their outer appearance. Their inside is what makes them beautiful to me. Most of the people I've dated, nobody else considered them attractive and they were always asking, what is SHE doing with HIM??? But thats because those people are seeing with their eyes not their hearts.

"Do it the right way". There is no "right way" to find love, Love finds you. Be brave, and if you are afraid about your man playing games with you, be clever yourself. We women are not stupid. Try to look past his flattery and just listen to how he talks to you normally, how well you two play together. This is how you know if its real. And all marriages are challenging, maybe interfaith marriages are more so. But I think many people are up for that challenge.

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