To Hisham

Submitted by Masriya (Spain), Oct 16, 2008 at 16:33

Salam Hisham,

First of all, sorry for my late reply and thanks for your words.

I know what masriya means, i took that nickname on purpose. Helwa ya balady! I love your country, your culture, your people (i dont blame anyone for what happened to me).

Let me tell you, i met my husband by chance but we married like 2 years later. Before making that decision we had talked about our future life, financial, the way of raising children, etc. I had travelled to Egypt 7 times to get to know him in "real", in his enviroment, meanwhile we used to talk on the phone, on internet, not just about love or silly conversations, about life, our situations, worries and troubles in the day to day. I felt we were a team.

I always respected his religion, still i do, and used to encourage him to be a good muslim, not fanatic or ignorant, just to decide by himself what is wrong or what is right and not to believe blindly.

Of course everyone likes to hear sweet words, like in any relationship, at the first stage that is a must all over the world but when things go forward you must face all the sides of the relationship with both love and common sense.

Answering to your question, no, i did not find anything wrong on him. I married him convinced that he was my man. We had had different points of view in some matters, but always tried to find a balance, be understanding and openminded.

His main problem, sorry for this, i know you are egyptian, is the society there and "what they would think of me if i do this or that". He had always to struggle with the same question: Why you marry a foreigner? We have lots of wonderful egyptian women here. Sadly many still see it like a sin, kind of "Why a muslim man would prefer an infidel? Too much pressure. I had the very same problem here at the beginning but, even scared of the bad experiences that many western women have with arabs, i gave it a chance.

In many ways, your society, i'm talking about Cairo, let alone smaller areas,as i see it, reminds me to our Spain 30 years ago and still it is a fact in many villages here.

Im glad that you enjoyed La costa del Sol.

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