do we ever really know if they are telling you the truth?

Submitted by lisa (United States), Oct 19, 2008 at 10:45

i liked your 2 comments on turkish men. i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months. here is the problem. he has a wife and 2 daughters in turkey. i knew this, he has been here for 8 yrs keeping in contact via the pc. before he met me he was in search of a green card, I also knew this he has appeared to be honest with me about alot of things.

I told him i would never marry him for that purpose, i would only marry a man i loved and loved me. I read all the stories and i get so scared he is playing me also. yes he says he loves me and is going to divorce his wife that he doesent want to go back to turkey. he wants his daughters to move here but I as a mother know the kids will want their mothere here. anyway i have a hard time beliving he has been married for 16yrs and stayed devoted to her and there vision of living here to all of a sudden after only 8 months of being with me that he could walk away from her and their dream as he tries to get me to belive. when i say i wont marry him cause i dont trust him he say's ok what do i do....I have noticed that the guilt trips are starting and he tries to use my jealousy of him finding a another girl to marry for a green card as well as what would happen if he got sent back to turkey.. cause i told him i would stay around to watch that. like all the other woman he also treats me wonderful shows my children love and respect. maybe i also have been played i just wish i knew what to say or do to see if i am correct in my fears.plz help lisa

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