Canadian Girl, Please read

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 22, 2008 at 21:35

In order for this to turn out badly, it does NOT have to happen on-line.

Look, you have a major advantage here because you see him in person, and that little voice: It's your feminine instincts telling you this is bad.

You asked a very good question: Why is he with a woman not from his culture with children? Especially after all you've probably seen on here? And you have every right to ask that question.

I would guess that what is making this hard for is the perceived love he has for and your kids, but the problem with a lot of these situations is that the man does a 180 degree turn after marriage.

As a guy, I am concerned about this, especially since you felt the need to come on here and post. Anytime you need third party confirmation to be in a relationship, dear, it is BAD news all around.

Trust your instincts, Canadian Girl, and believe me when I say: In order to find a fulfilling relationship that is good for both you and your children, there cannot be doubt. If we wish to avoid heartache and putting our kids in a situation with dopey, shady men, it's important to love with not only your heart but also your HEAD. Especially when children are involved.

I can understand your attraction to this man and why you don't just want to drop him on a whim. A lot of single women with kids are more open to opportunities they would not normally be with the security of a man with them. But, really, Canadian Girl, the fact that he is Egyptian or Muslim changes little. It's your instincts that are telling you to leave, and please, for your own good, listen carefully to them. I've learned the hard way many times about female intuition. Trust it.

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