To Hunny....My advice

Submitted by annonymous in USA (United States), Oct 26, 2008 at 06:34

Hunny...My opinion and I am marrying a Moroccan man next month! Did you talk about these issues? My Fiance says his richer sister dresses about same as I do and he also says some women there wear regular street clothes and some are more revealing than I wear. My shirts can be low-cut..He says I wear "Good" He told me he has never asked me to wear Hijab and he was upset I thought I had to and the fact I assumed after reading here & I questioned him. He admits yes he is a little jealous and asked me to help him not be too jealous. But I admit I am jealous too but not to point where each is sitting back at home worrying about the other...The only thing he asked of me is that when a man there looks at me, just make sure I do not turn around and stare to not give the man the wrong impression ora desire. Same would hold true here for any man and woman.....Lust can lead to cheating....I have not seen yet how he will react in person cause he thinks I am truly beautiful but I will let you know my adventures soon. I leave in about 4 weeks and I will be staying for only two weeks this trip. I am going to marry him so if his character or attitude changes I will let you know. I will tell you I am headstrong and smart and not a weak woman and if he does change the way he is now...it will be a divorce. I will not tolerate anything I have read from other women and I have let him know this to make sure he is 100% sure of his love. I believe in him and he has not doubted me and I do not doubt him....Hunny if you do not want to wear the Hijab, he should let you decide....Its totally changing who you are and your beauty. SPEAK UP!! Will you let him walk all over your decisions and will you allow it for the love of this man that you are doubting and having to ask someone what you should do? If you have to ask thsi question, why do you feel a strong need to marry this person....If there are any red flags I would say this could be one majorissue and he sounds very controlling! Doesn't sound like my Fiance and he is a jealous one too and he will tell you! You can't havea good strong relationship being overly jealous....Just my opinion and experience.

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