Anonymous in USA ---Certainty factor in these relationship

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 29, 2008 at 19:25

Anonymous:

Here's the the thing: Why on earth on you even looking for this stuff on-line and dispensing advice if your relationship is so certain and solid?

You talk about communication, and the tone and nature of your post and your presence on here say a lot to me.

I've been on here for 10 months now and I've heard this all before with international, intercultural relationships "Mine is different, you don't know me."

Heard it all before.

All I really need to know is that you are on here trying to prove points instead of spending time with your man. Do you even know where he is and what he is doing while you defend your relationship on here?

There was nothing negative written in my comments or advice...only facts..so you think all marriages will fail after 3 years that all moroccan men are same.

No, not all Moroccan men are the same, but like any other country, most Moroccans will marry Moroccans. Shocking, huh?

A lot international marriages DO fail in three years or less. Many are scams, and of the ones that are not, cultural differences will do a lot of others in, as will not knowing each other well enough before you say "I do." The trends are even worse for American men, if you can believe that.

We have a 50% divorce rate among American marriages. Add differences, distance and scandal to the mix and the rates go up, up, up.

My guy will live in USA. He will abide by USA laws.

so he says, so you think. There's no law against him divorcing you, emptying your bank accounts, or using to get his family over here and then bailing on you.

It's happened before.

..I will not have to be treated the way the women are that lives there and believe you me Im no push over as well.

Even if you are the most hard-core feminist, as time rolls on, he WILL wear you down. I'll bet on the man every single time because they are generally much more abrasive.

I have told him I will be treated well or he goes and we will work together as a team. Does that sound like I am unsure?

The fact that you are looking for this stuff on-line suggests something is wrong.

No, its making him aware up front...Our relationship will not be one-sided.....my advice was to read his body language..how he acts...

Pretty tough to do when you're not in person.

my guy knows I do not have extra money or material things to give and he loves me anyway.

More internet love, huh? Think that real matrimonial love happens over the internet? Hardly. You may think that you don't have a lot of extra things, but it's a lot better compared to what many Moroccans have. I bet you'd be surprised as to what you could go without in this life.

Sounds like most of the relationships on here the guy is asking or hinting and wanting everyones money.....

Not always, sometimes they just want a visa, I suppose some of them even want to use a Western woman's womb for the cause of jihad. Really though, it's pretty hard to find decent people over the internet in any place. People who are socially stable really don't need to spend time on cyberspace looking for friends and romance.

My guy will not lay up on me in the USA...he will work and he is a hard worker and very smart man...and He tutors Doctors kids and has a degree so he will be able to pave his own way here...Im sorry if I offended you in some way.

Oh, no doubt. Not that having a degree makes you any smarter in this era, but the real question is: Does he ultimately want to be with you, or are you just a temporary stepping stone for him?

You do not know me or him....im very capable of giving advice as anyone else on this board including you!!

You are, but with a clear bias in mind. In this entire post, all you didn't give advice, you just tried to defend a relationship that could very well be a sham.

Like I said, you're on here for a reason, and it's not just to give advice.

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