To Aflac

Submitted by Donna (United States), Oct 30, 2008 at 17:54

Wow, so everyday there's at least one new post about Moroccan men. It's epidemic. This is becoming less of a post for Muslim/Non-Muslim relationships and more about Moroccan/Non-Moroccan relationships, but the overriding issues of poor treatment and abuse of women persists.

Someobody should start a database (name, dob, hometown, etc.) ; not sure what we could do with this, but I want to do what I can to prevent even one more woman from being in this situation. I am not overlooking the men here who have also been take advantage of. Does anyone have any ideas on how such a database might be instrumental?

Aflac, how is it that Rachid is in the process of obtaining a green card if his wife has left? Something seems fishy here. If they are getting divorced (???), then on what basis other than marriage is the green card being issued? As far as I know, the green card is only good for 2 years. After that he can apply for permanent residency which is good for 10 years. If he has already started being mean and manipulative, no telling what monster he might become later when his legal situation is more stable. I doubt he is interested in citizenship.

So I guess you could continue on the basis that you are using him to the same extent that he is using you, but I think it is unbalanced. You like him more, this is eroding your self-esteem and you're going to get hurt. What is truly remarkable about the arrogance of these men is that they need you, yet do everything they can to make you feel "sick" and bad about yourself. They have never learned the concept of love, it's about ownership and that is a very painful lesson to us. They think of women as being essentially evil and dispensible. The sweetness and the great sex will cool off, once he has what he wants, and definitely if you get stronger. That was surely my experience and looking back, that was really not worth the pain. Watch out for that jealousy thing; in my case, it got really ridiculous.

Please take care.

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