The red flags are obvious, anon. in USA

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 30, 2008 at 18:39

And that includes looking for this stuff on the internet. Most of the internet is garbage and second-rate sources. It's any wonder why Americans are becoming more ignorant despite all that wonderful technology.

As I told you earlier, just looking for this stuff on the internet is a red flag, and you are on here for more than just that.

Your opinions of my intelligence do not change the facts, annoymous, and your arguments are not original. I've seen them on here and on other blogs before, so I'm not impressed with your relationship or the idea that you think that it's okay to tell others what they have is not real and then get all defensive when people are skeptical of you.

Seen it all before. Do you have anything original to say to me, or are you just going to waste time trying to convince people over the internet that what you have is for real? You really don't seem to want to fend over too many details as is the case in many man-defense posts.

You know, Its my choice in life to marry whoever I choose so I am not letting his ignorance stand in the way of love.

I'm not convinced that you have is love. Not in the least.

Luigi asks why people read here. Its interesting to read. Its not to question our man's identies/love, it is sometimes to learn little things like facts they can marry cousins, can't eat pork, how to marry a moroccan, how some Muslims may act or not act. Everyone is their own person. You have to look deep inside that person's heart and mind and get to know them and if you do question their sincerity I think you should not be in the relationship to begin with if you have doubt or see any red flags mentioned here and you discuss it with your fiance or boyfrnd and he has no logic answers for them.

Actually, what brings most women to this particular blog is the notion that they are not sure. Needing third party confirmation to be in a relationship is a red flag, and the reason they are not sure are because the relationships are long-distance, the communication goes down, and women have a harder time detecting male nonsense.

So, I see much more uncertainty than curiousity on here, and those who claim to be certain are often very defensive, which tells me that deep down, they really are not secure with their relationships.

1) How do you look deep into someone's heart and mind over the internet, especially when they have a few pop-up windows on HOW TO TALK AND SEDUCE WESTERN WOMEN up

2) Some of them are experienced enough to have logical answers, it's a key reason why the scams work so well.

3) The "everybody is different" is just like the "there are good and bad men" excuse. Once you accept this, your mind is relieved and it just reinforces the idea that what you think you have is for real.

Just my honest opinion but don't believe all you read here too Liugi will not agree with any of the relationships here! He sees red flags in every single one of them!! He is not as intelligent as he claims and cannot know 100% your Fiance's character true self so don't let him tear your relationship apart by doubting something that can be good and real.

Trouble is, many of them are not. It's really common sense, annoymous, but in order to have that, you need to be able to get over how intelligent, exotic and handsome your partner is.

Looking at what you have been saying on here, you obviously don't know him that well either, otherwise you would not be searching on the internet for this and you would not be wasting your time trying to discredit me.

If it is not real and true, you will only know in the future! It will not matter if he is Jordanian, Moroccan, Egyptian,American, etc if he is not a good man and you a good woman and if you are not compatiable it is not going to work anyway and I do not mean religion. I think one can work through this together if you really want your marriages or relationships to work but don't base it on other's bad encounters with internet dating.

Why not? cultural differences still play a role, on top of the top two reasons for divorce which are financial woes and adultery. Study after study shows that the more successful relationships are based on similarities not differences.

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