Married an Algerian-BIG MISTAKE

Submitted by Naive Girl (Australia), Nov 3, 2008 at 07:27

Hi everyone,

I wish I had known this forum site before I married my Algerian husband. Reading these stories about "muslim" men, I think the majoriy of Norh African born men have the same mentality and personality. However, most of these men are not REAL muslims. If you follow the coran you will learn that a woman should be respected. A real muslim does not drink or have sexual relations before marriage.

My Algerian husband gives muslims a bad name. I correct people who say he is MUSLIM. Because he is NOT, he gives MUSLIM a bad name. My husband has had many, many girlfriends, lovers, and made the mistake of always talking to me about them. Before marriage he drank, had girlfriends, not at all religious. When we meet he was very SLEAZY, I rejected his advances and he was very cold and selfish saying "if you don't sleep with me I am going to leave you!!!" He obviously assumed that because I am a western girl I am easy. As he didn't get what he wanted he remained sulky, refused to pay for things for me, he said "if you want something, you buy it". He even asked me if I had a credit card and how much money I had in the bank!!

Anyway , I continued to see him as I was lonely and had nothing else to do . One week later and all of a sudden he said he wanted to marry me. He said that I was he wife he was looking for! He started being very nice and generous, paying for as much as he could. PLEASE. I was very naive, never had a boyfriend, and was very innocent(never had sexual relations). I fell in love with him even though he was verbally abusive and manipulative from day one. We married one month later in the muslim way the AL FATIHA. He said this marriage was the most important because its under ALLAHS eyes. He said his love for me was real otherwise he would not do the AL FATIHA and lie to god. I even CONVERTED to islam. It was MY choice.

Once married he "PRETENTED" to be religious. He would do the prayer five times a day and went to the mosk on fridays. I say pretended because I now found out that he had been looking at PORNOGAPHY on the internet and chatting with wowen on internet dating sites. He even joined dating sites and listed himself as wanting to meet for "dates" for short term or long term!!!! This from a man who told me he was "FIDELE"!!!

Anyway, with time he became more and more abusive, verbally, mentally and then physically. He was very JEALOUS, IMMATURE and INSECURE. He would verbally attack me all the time, trying to destroy my self esteem. Thats what abusers do. He was allways COMPLIMENTING over women but he would critizise my appearance. He wanted me to fell that I was a worthless person and that I should be lucky to have him!!! He doesn't like western culture, but wants to live in the wetern countries to better himself. He would critizise my family, trying to turn me against them.

He started to pressure me into sponsoring him for a visa. He was always saying that his friends girlfriends got the visa's for them straight away, why aren't I so eager to help him!! MANIPULATION. I told him if he wanted a VISA he should be NICE to me. He responded in a SMU " I can still get one anyway". He thinks because were married he can automatically immigrate.

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