needing advise

Submitted by isalover (United States), Nov 3, 2008 at 20:22

i asked this question before...how do i really know the truth? I have been with my turkish boyfriend almost a yr now. I know he is married and has 2 daughters in turkey. he has been here 8 yrs and has not returned home because he wants to stay in usa and his visa had run out. he told me he was looking for a green card marriage i laughed and said no way.....well a friendship has turned in to what i think is love well it is on my part...he says he has fallen in love with me and i have changed his life...his wife found out about us through some nosy turk here and he lied to her and said it was for a green card well i guess she found out recently we live together and when asked why he said he told her he loved me. All i can do is belive what he tells me (which is not easy for me) i trust no one. well he talks to his daughters via the phone and pc. use to talk to the wife daily in the beginning of our relationship but that stopped..

i dont know whether he is lying to me and she knows this is what he needs to do to get me to fall in love and marry him...or if she really meant she didnt want him because he has been with me romantically.he supports her and the kids she doesent work and i guess she is filing for divorce he has tried before but the turkish court rejected the request so he says...anyway i dont know what to belive anymore...even when i say i wont ever marry him he says than what do i do honey ...guilt i see that...but my heart is in so deep i cant stand the thought of walking away even though my intution tells me i may be being played....even more so when i read these comments.....someone plz talk to me...isalover

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