First of all, Amy

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Nov 10, 2008 at 18:18

It's important to have an open mind about the advice given on here. This blog is very different from others.

I do thank you for sharing your story, and I'm sure it may not have been the easiest thing you have ever done on-line, and I do understand your attraction to this man.

First of all, the issues on this board really don't have much to do with religion or culture in the sense that these lies are scams are exclusive to Islam and Muslims. They are NOT, and you can pretty much cut and paste any ethnic group or religion in place of Moroccans or Muslims on here and have it be accurate.

Secondly, if there is one piece of advice I can give you from Catholic to another: Do not for a single second think that if a religious man (I don't care what religion) has sex or sleeps with you in a relationship that he has "loosened up." People like this are rare to change, and if change does indeed occur, it happens on their own accord without outside influence. I cannot emphasize enough how bad it is to get sexually involved with someone you are in a stable marriage with. I cannot judge you, obviously, and I have made that mistake before, but that is why it's not easy to leave him, Amy.

Look, I'm 27 , so we're about the same age. As a guy, Amy, I think he's just using you for sex. Maybe he just likes to have sex with a non-Muslim or a Western woman for bragging rights. It would not be the first time, and I assure you, Amy, men of our religion do much the same and lead a double life.

Look at it like this: It's okay for you two to share the most intimate encounter possible, yet he cannot even explain why. Think about that for a moment, Amy. That sounds pretty messed up, does it not?

You say he is a good guy. If he was a good guy he would not be treating you like this. You are owed an explanation, Amy, and I think the reason he's not giving it is because the truth is an extremely shallow reason. You would be surprised at how selfish people like that can be.

Will you be shattered when this ends? It will not feel good, but it sounds like he'll let you go when finds someone else he wants, and that could be months, maybe even years. My advice, Amy, is to not waste any more time. I realize it's probably not going to be overnight break-up, but I would say try to lessen this by the day. I just don't see a positive outcome for you here, dear, and I know that's not what you wanted to hear.

I've been hurt like this before too, Amy, in fact, I had a dating relationship on a note this week. But if I can get over this, I'm sure you can as well.

Do feel free to come back on here at any time to talk.

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