Shadae's post

Submitted by Lisa (United States), Nov 18, 2008 at 12:08

Are you ready to complicate your life by being financially responsible for this moroccan man if you sponsor his visa to the USA. I think its a 10 year agreement to support him. At worst, if he left you and used up your credit card you would have to continue to pay his debts for ten years. You say you are smart

Shadae, first off,,,,My husband and I will be a "TEAM" we will work TOGETHER! and yes I will be there for my husband be it a Moroccan or American, etc. I don't consider marriage being a complication by sharing what you have and your spouse is rightfully entitled to their share...Im by no means rich...business is a hobby...I work a well paid manufacturing job which yes I make enough doubled to support him but what you are forgetting is you are assuming all these marriages will fail. Not all do!...I don't use credit cards and if we aquire any together he will share with his name on them and if my marriage does fail (which it will not) but to satisfy you if it does, its really none of your business and that is part of life. There are no certainties in life....Sorry I had to be so blunt but people like you are unhappy in your own life so you want others to drown in your misery as well and if you women start believing all you read here...It will fail...Don't let Shadae and others put a black spot in your heart or they will ruin your relationship before it ever begins.....when you take a vow of marriage in America...we say we accept this man/woman for richer or poorer...its no different what we are willing to sacrifice in our marriages to these men we love and to answer your question about signing support YES I will sign in a heartbeat cause I am confident in my relationship with this man.....you talk about my age so easily...honey I am a great catch for any man ...I have the looks, the confidence, and I have a lot more men in 20's staring me down than 30 year olds!...so to imply cause I am 42..maybe, I am "Washed up" i have news for you, I have a lot of living and loving to do and giving and I bet I can satisfy him quicker than any 30 year old so please come off of the age factor....Its not a factor in all these scenarios...Younger is not always better.....they act too silly and immature and I know he wants someone he is comfortable with and that is with me....and it may be fact he has two sisters around my age he adores and he doesn't care much for the younger sisters attitudes and character....I have no problems keeping this 32 year old man happy snd satisfied.

I will marry this man...you do not sit in on our conversations...you do not know our feelings...you are not inside our hearts or our minds....you can not possibly see how our hours long meetings seems like minutes because we are so happy together and time slips by...you want to see negative and you have a negative vibe about yourself so you will not find love or be happy yourself....

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