Met an Algerian Muslim Man

Submitted by KarenG (United States), Nov 18, 2008 at 15:59

I met an Algerian man a few years younger than me. He found me on a dating site. For a number days, I chatted with him. I told him he should go find a young woman who wants to get married and have a family (I did not know his ethnic background then), rather than talk to me, a divorcing woman with kids. I finally agreed to meet him; I went to him to met because I didn't want him to come into my "territory". Well, we clicked immediately (not sexually, but metnally) and, yes, I became intimate with him (but not intercourse.) He insisted on seeing me every day. Not insisted, but as I told him before I met him, he was relentless. He said he wasn't stopping. He is never rude.

When we talk, I feel very much like I am being subjected to a marriage interview and that I am purposefully being wooed. In fact, looking back, I think all of our conversation seems that way. (This is not unusual for me, as a woman. Men don't seem to want to date me, they want to get serious with me right away. Even before I met my soon to be former husband.) I feel he is testing me, on jealousy, my values, my background, how quickly will I be divorced. He has mentioned my getting pregnant, him moving in, me as a single mother needing someone to help....I can see he has a little bit of jealousy, but since I am open and honest, he seems fine.

He is kind and solicitous and I have never been treated so thoughtfully or with such patience by any man. I have a sense that he is genuinely fond of me--as a person.

I am totally unclear on his residency status, although he says he has an internship. I could fall for this guy. And I can't believe that he would want to marry me forever and ever (not that *I* am particularly looking to get married in the future.) My question is: should I end this now before it goes further or just go with the flow? It all just seems so textbook to me, especially reading these threads. I am inclined to ask him straight out what his intention is.

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