Lisa--

Submitted by For Lisa (United States), Nov 18, 2008 at 17:39

Shadae, first off,,,,My husband and I will be a "TEAM" we will work TOGETHER! and yes I will be there for my husband be it a Moroccan or American, etc. I don't consider marriage being a complication by sharing what you have and your spouse is rightfully entitled to their share...Im by no means rich...business is a hobby...I work a well paid manufacturing job which yes I make enough doubled to support him but what you are forgetting is you are assuming all these marriages will fail.

The ones that have been successful on here involve Moroccan/Muslim men that:

1) Live near the woman

2) Have been in a Western country for a while

You won't find on-line successes on here, Lisa.

Not all do!...I don't use credit cards and if we aquire any together he will share with his name on them and if my marriage does fail (which it will not) but to satisfy you if it does, its really none of your business and that is part of life.

It is our business if you are going to come on here, respond to us, post arguements based on sheer emotion, and should things go wrong, expect the American embassy (ie USA TAXPAYERS) to bail you out.

Honestly, the whole "this is none of your business" nonsense will not work on here.

There are no certainties in life....Sorry I had to be so blunt but people like you are unhappy in your own life so you want others to drown in your misery as well and if you women start believing all you read here...It will fail...

Actually, Lisa, a lot of us have been unhappy. The women on here have been hurt by both Western and Muslim men, and I've been shorted by American women numerous times. They say they want a "nice" guy but always seem to go for the jerk. I guess it's all about the looks. I wonder if that's the case with your engagement, or ate least a big part of it?

The real question, is Lisa, if you are truly happy-- Why are you spending time on here? And where is your man when you are on here? Do you even know?

Don't let Shadae and others put a black spot in your heart or they will ruin your relationship before it ever begins....

Most of these relationships are doomed shortly after they begin. The quick "I love you's", the money, the "baby nothing can come inbetween us."

Heard it all before. Even had a Russian woman tell me once that she loved in the second e-mail. So, Lisa, how soon was it before your man told you he loved you?

.when you take a vow of marriage in America...we say we accept this man/woman for richer or poorer...its no different what we are willing to sacrifice in our marriages to these men we love

Easier said than done. Interesting how you mention sacrifice, because that word contradicts progressive American society at nearly every angle. It's also why we have a near-50% divorce rate, as I'm sure you know. People SAY they will make the sacrifce, but when push comes to shove, they just don't have the ambition, between that and cheating and finanical mismanagment.

and to answer your question about signing support YES I will sign in a heartbeat cause I am confident in my relationship with this man.....

That's most unforunate that you feel that way, because it is overconfidence to say the least.

you talk about my age so easily...honey I am a great catch for any man ...I have the looks, the confidence, and I have a lot more men in 20's staring me down than 30 year olds!..

You've used the age arguement against me, so why can't Shadae use it in your situation? You really don't like having your engagement criticized, do you Lisa? Several of your predecessors on here have been much more tolerant.

As far as men in their 20s staring at you, let me just say this: I am in my 20's, and there is an emerging trend in the West and North Africa of younger men having flings, NOT RELATIONSHIPS with OLDER women.

They have no interest in a relationship, Lisa. My friends sometimes joke about that sort of thing, and while you defend them on here, they would probably refer to you as "Grandma" behind your back.

I have no doubt that you are an attractive woman, but attraction alone will not make a marriage work by any means, and I would say it's a key reason why so many marriages fail.

.so to imply cause I am 42..maybe, I am "Washed up" i have news for you, I have a lot of living and loving to do and giving and I bet I can satisfy him quicker than any 30 year old so please come off of the age factor....Its not a factor in all these scenarios...

I'm sure you will satisfy him, just not in the way you are thinking, Lisa.

Younger is not always better.....they act too silly and immature and I know he wants someone he is comfortable with and that is with me....and it may be fact he has two sisters around my age he adores and he doesn't care much for the younger sisters attitudes and character....I have no problems keeping this 32 year old man happy snd satisfied.

You might once you find out his REAL intentions...

Also, many times, the families can be in on the whole scam thing.

I will marry this man...

I thought you were going to wait and see first; have our posts convinced you to marry this man just to try and spite us? If so, not a very wise way to make a major life decision.

you do not sit in on our conversations...you do not know our feelings...you are not inside our hearts or our minds....you can not possibly see how our hours long meetings seems like minutes because we are so happy together and time slips by...

Oh, we do not need to sit in your conversations to see what is happening. Not at all. That arguement has been played on here before. See, we don't need to know what your man's favorite ice cream or color is to know what he's up to. We have the lengthy essays that you write, your defensive stance, the red flags you've apparently unwittingly admitted and not least of all, you're continued presence on this site, which would suggest to me that you spend a rather signifcant amount of time on-line doing things other than talking to your man. I don't think we've had anyone openly argue this hard about it, though it changes nothing in my view that this will end for absolute heartbreak for you.

From your behavior, I am also inclined to assume that your man spends a great of time on-line too. That is another red-flag warning sign. The internet is a poor way to set up a long-distance, interenet relationship because people who are on-line a lot are on-line for a reason, and they are usually NOT good reasons.

you want to see negative and you have a negative vibe about yourself so you will not find love or be happy yourself....

Interestingly enough, Lisa, it's you, not Shadae, that I am concerened about.

-Luigi

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