cats & dogs

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Nov 21, 2008 at 17:56

Cats & Dogs, this story is full of more red flags than communist China. First of all, I find the concept of falling in love over the internet quite hard to grasp - though it does happen. But this isn't the problem. A man - muslim, christian, Jewish etc. - would never ask a woman he respects to send nudes. You haven't even met yet - please don't humiliate yourself before you've even met. If he loves you, he doesn't need to see your body until you are together or married. Trust me, a muslim man would rarely ask a potential muslim wife to send him naked pictures via email. They wouldn't even sleep with each other until after the marriage, unless he was really liberal etc.

It is possible that he will show your cam shows to other men, this is a common internet phenomenon. Girls getting tricked into stripping on cam, it's nothing new. DON'T obey this man, he clearly has no respect for you. Saying No might make him angry but believe me, he will respect you even more if you do. I've heard lots of muslim man laughing at "easy" women, at how they say Yes to everything and will end up on their own. In fact, not just muslim men but men from all walks of life. A devout muslim man would never marry a woman & have her raise his kids if she says Yes to all sexual relations prior to marriage.

It basically sounds to me like he's manipulating you. First he offered the product (love, family etc.), now he wants the reward. Love is about respecting each other, it's patient, kind, never jealous, rude or selfish. If he loves you, he will respect your modesty. Please stop doing this, I think he is using you, and he simply sounds like a sexually deprived man. He may even have another lover who isn't satisfying him sexually. Not cool.

Why do you love him? Is there an emotional connection? Or is it just the usual "I love you" bla bla bla... even if you do love him, he doesn't need to see your body, & he will wait. Please stop now to save any embarrasment.

Good luck either way

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