Divorce evidence

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Nov 24, 2008 at 19:45

Advice to the women who take the plunge despite our warnings about these men: From Day 1, keep records of absolutely everything for the predictably inevitable divorce court case. You won't believe it's coming but just take my word for it and save everything. In cases of abuse, visit the local women's shelter and get them to act as witnesses since no private citizen will ever help you in those countries. If you're Canadian and you sponsor him, be aware that Canada's privacy act won't allow you to see the interview notes taken by the consulate visa officer - only your husband will have the right to release these notes. In a case where the officer judges that the marriage was to obtain a visa, you won't be able to access this document for court purposes as evidence that your husband was at fault. Ironic isn't it - the criminals have all the rights here in Canada. Last but not least, learn the language basics so that you can get the help you need with the divorce.

And, if you're a stubborn fighter like me and want to contest the divorce for various reasons, particularly if he took a second illegal wife ( if the husband's country allows refusal of divorce by a spouse ), you can keep him married to you ( if you're not planning to marry again and you don't want compensation) by simply not being around to sign acceptance of the divorce papers when they try to serve them to you - my big mistake was signing the fed ex receipt.

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