lack of passion, luigi, optimism

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Nov 27, 2008 at 06:28

I also wonder at this. I've been hurt & betrayed in the past but I would never let the actions of a few messed up people stop my ability to love. That way, they've won. Your responses are very well-informed/realistic & you're definitely an asset to the site (especially as most predators prey on the most optimistic women), but I think instead of just pointing out the negative possibilities, it's better to play Devil's Advocate - don't tell a woman to just forget about a guy as he's bad news, but simply warn her of the possible red flags. Cause a lot of women on here have already been hurt enough by men & are probably feeling pretty pessimistic about love, so the last thing they need is some kind of "Told You So" attitude.

Mistakes are there to be learned from, sometimes the hard way, but that's life. We can't live an incubator lifestyle, staying away from anyone different & being suspicious of everyone like in Soviet Russia. The world would be a dull place if no one took risks, & no one got anywhere by not taking risks. Not only that, there would be no biracial children if everyone stuck to their own race! And no one is wrong for loving someone different to them, if a woman gets cheated, it's the man's problem, not hers, for taking advantage of her love like that. I know you think I'm a foolish romantic for saying things like "every experience is unique" but although similar scams are common in certain areas, these countries aren't full of cookie-cutter people.

Long distance relationships can be tough, but if both parties have a strong urge to pursue it, things will turn out successfully. Just my 2 cents lol.

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