No one should yell at you

Submitted by Donna (United States), Nov 28, 2008 at 15:37

You don't give too much information, but no man, Moroccan or otherwise, should be yelling at you because things do not go their way. That should be absolutely unacceptable for you. Many Moroccan men do seem to think that all things should go their way, certainly without regard to lowly females (i.e., wives, girlfriends, etc.) ... mothers are a different story.

As for being treated like a queen, that does tend to be the modus operandi in the beginning. Eventually, they either get what they want (sex, material things, a green card, ultimately permanent residency, etc.) or they leave to find and take advantage of another giving woman. It is my experience and the experience of other American/ European/Canadian women here that these relationships do not last and many end very painfully. Do you really envision your bf becoming your partner in life? I don't believe that Moroccan men know how to be partners in a relationship; they just have not been raised as such.

The yelling concerns me. You may still be a queen, but knocking you off that pedestal may start very insidiously. Since you mentioned jealousy, this may be starting to rear its head for you too. Watch out for that, it runs very deep, and in my case, became really ridiculous. Do not mistake this for love; rather, it is all about ownership. Please take care.

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