Reply to Elizabeth

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Dec 1, 2008 at 22:50

As your daughter is 40 years old, there is probably not much that you can do. Ultimately she needs to research Islam and the woman's role in Islam before she goes any further with this relationship. With the man's mother being involved - this is very unusual and this would sound warnings to me immediately. Whilst the mothers do control the sons they do it discreetly from the background and not up front. Sounds like they are all in on it.

My heartfelt advice would be to just be there for her if anything does go awry as she will need the support - if you pressure her too much you may lose her altogether. And what of her daughter? Has she thought how this scenario would effect her at all?

As for the lawyer - you are right that he would be a con man too. Your daughter would never see her money again because she would be paying fo r the so called visa service. Visas to any western country from a Muslim country are not that easy to access. Does the Moroccan man work in steady professional employment? Is he tertiary educated? Does he have assets? Answering NO to any of these questions means that his chances of a visa to western country regardless of his marriage status are severely reduced.

Why? Why? Why? - do women fall for these men online?

I'm sorry that I can't offer more help for you at this time and I only hope that you can make her see reason.

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