Your Anticipated Reply From Elizabeths Daughter!

Submitted by Missy (United States), Dec 3, 2008 at 20:46

This will be my first and my last reply to this group. To start this joyous occasion off, I cant begin to express my gratitude for so many 'saving graces' out there. I am appalled that I find MY life on the internet spelled out for a bunch of strangers... and for that I say "thanks mom"! I am 40 years old and capable of making my own decisions on 'my' life. And just in case anyone misunderstood that last sentence, I said "my" life. Christian marriage mom??? Puleeeez! You seem to think I left the 'good life" behind, but as I explained to you, there was never to 'good life"....

But getting back to the matters at hand... My life is not up for public display... it is not up to anyone out there to make decisions for me, it is not up to anyone to say "heyyyy contact ICE!" They will protect this 40 year old women who is making her own descisions in life. Who is 'anyone' to say this this is a sham? Where did any one of you get your degrees? You have no insight into my life or anyone elses to make any judgements, what we talk about or how we spend our time together, what our plans are, and how 'he' feels. He is a human being like anyone else! He crys like the rest of us, bleeds like the rest of us... What makes him bad by being a muslim?

Think for just a moment how many women are abused in the united states? How they are beaten by there husband, boyfriends? Should we then say then that the men of the united stated are allll bad? Then how can you say this about men from there?? But ohhh I forgot! They run scams there on women. Tell me again, how many scams on women are run here in the united states? Thank God for protectors like you! I can imagine your are thinking "oh my... she sounds pretty mad now..." "She must be this poor angry women".. You bet I am mad and angry. To find a forum topic on me, and the crap I have had to put up with ignorant people and they're views on Muslim men are appauling. The crap I have had to put up with by my own family threatening to keep me in bondage to my ex husband, the one who keeps an automatic rifle in every room of the house, who threw my daughter up against a wall, who cocks his pistoal every night in bed just because the sound of it was soothing to him... my parents had the brilliant idea to threaten to tell him so he would contest the divorce and keep me in bondage to him so I cant marry this man. Thanks for saving my life once again! I had such a bright future ahead with my ex didn't I?

I am 40 years old and not a 16 year old child who my parents should have to make a public plea "how can I stop this???" Do you think I am so naive as to not done any research? She tells me something about traveling over seas... and I state "I already knew that.." (becasue I am a smart enough individual to do research).. and I get a reply back "ohhhh well your such a smart traveler arent you." No I have not traveled overseas before, but when you do, you prepare, plan, and research like any smart intelligent individual. I have researched this to death there is 'just about' nothing you can tell me that I have not already read on. And about the lawyer? I have researched him too!

And? Just because I know his family it is a 'family' business now? That was the best laugh I have had all evening. And no 'true' muslim would allow a female to travel alone? Do your research on Islam people. There are Shi'ites (Shia) and Sunnis... both different! The Shia are the more conservative lot of Islamic people. The are the ones that the Taliban orginate from. The Tailiban carry these exteme beliefs. The Shia's beliefs orginate from Ali who was the son of Muhammad. Muhammed being they're prohit. The Sunni's do not believe in following the beliefs of the son of Muhammed. The Sunni's are not and strict and the Shias and have modernized over the years. Not all wear the hijab, the head covering for the hair. And the Shias have the whole body covering. They are the sect that will not allow a family female member to travel alone unless they are with a close male relative, they're father or brother. My fiance is a Sunni. I would gladly offer you more information by I have the feeling it is going on deaf ears. So I will not waste my time by aggriavting my carpel tunnel in my hands.

But as I sit here and write this I am thinking 'why? am I waiting my time?" This forum is not important. None of anyone's opinion on 'who' I marry is not important. This is my life and I am responsible for my own happiness. You or no one out there can or should not tell another how to live it. No one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with 'advising'... but you do not advise someone by saying "Oh yeahh... he's a scam artist alright", or "he does not love you and is only using you."... you have NO idea, no idea at alll. You are not the mirrors into these people lives to know what in going on in there minds, and thoughs. Just an non of you or my parents are privy to my thoughts, moments with him and my life.

To 'anyone' out there thinking to marry a Moroccan, let alone a Muslim... remember you are responsible for your life and only you. If you think you have found the one you want to share your life with then I am happiest for you above anyone else, becasue that is a rare find. But, if you have found an online romance, do your homework. Thats all I have to say. Not all, muslims, morocans, palestinians, iraelies, canadians, africans, or AMERICANS are all good, and not all are bad. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors with your intended. And by the way, it appears you are asking from advice from the wrong support group! Do not take advice from one place,... do your research. That is just like saying "well bad friends were the only ones I could find"... There are good and knowledgeable people out there, people that can advise you wisely 'without' pre-judging the individual. You have to remember your source for advice.. You are in america. And americans are 'not' accepting of foreigners, especially muslim foreigners. So becareful of the advice and the source you are getting it from.

As for those who know I am speaking to them... I am not stupid. You do not have the correct information of the intended. I am not going to have him blasted all over the internet, or provide his email address so he can be bombarded with hate mail. Now please respect my discision. If I blunder the bad is on me. But if I do not blunder, then I will be the luckiest women in existance. Salam and bslama!

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