Here is the problem--Jealous, Obsessive, Moroccan man, visa

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 4, 2008 at 19:22

Hi there, and thanks for sharing!

First of all, let's put aside the fact that you are of African descent and Creole and that your man is Moroccan and even the reasonable age difference.

The REAL issue is how he acts. It does not matter who is what race or religion, the reality is if he acts jealous or possessive now, just wait and see what happens when the relationship gets deeper. It may even get to a point where he'll want you to wear a hijab and have no guy friends.

I am well aware of the stereotypes in this type of scenario, but I have to share with you: Even if you are a strong, independent lady or a hard-core feminist, his behavior will not change. 9 out of 10 times, if not more, the man wins out. Over time, he'll just keep on wearing you down until you give in. In other words, he will not respect you.

I think the aforementioned scenario in the last paragraph is what you need to consider. I am a guy myself (27) and I can completely understand why you are attracted to this man, but what's in it for him? Controlling your life so that he feels secure?

That's just not the basis for a good relationship.

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