response to missy

Submitted by a muslim woman (United States), Dec 4, 2008 at 22:46

Hello Missy and I wish you the best of everything. You are correct when you say you are a grown woman able to make your own choices.

I wanted to let you know however in all sects of Islam as well as any religion there are those who are stricter than others within the same belief. Ali is not the son of Mohammed (pbuh) but the cousin in which Mohammed (swt) raised. As far as traveling by yourself, this is in the Quaran not a particular sect. It really depends on the man and the family.

You are also correct in saying not all muslims are bad, there are bad and good within all races and religions. But you must know that Islam for muslims is way of life and there are truly big differences even with the best of intentions that sometimes can not be overcome. Sometimes also there is culture mixed in the religion that makes the laws blurry. For us muslims some things may not make sense to someone who is on the outside of the religion. Islam is truly a beautiful religion but not everyone unfortunately that calls themselves a muslim lives the Quaran or life of the Prophet (pbuh). Some do not really know there own intentions or the beauty and softness of the religion.

The husband in our religion truly holds a very high position and it is important for a woman who wants to marry a muslim man and be happy that she knows his status and her own as well for this marriage to work long term. Marriage is a lot of work with many challenges, put religious and cultural differences in there and it is even harder. Not impossible ofcourse but definetely challenging. We all know that after the first phase of a relationship wears off this is when the true test of tolerance and understanding come in. Love is something that grows over a lifetime, through thick and thin.

I wish you all the peace and happiness and love your heart desires, really I do. If ever you have any questions on Islam, it would be my pleasure to share with you the beauty of it that I have been blessed to see. May God be with you and keep you safe.

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