Your Anticipated Reply From Elizabeths Daughter

Submitted by Elizabeth (United States), Dec 6, 2008 at 18:33

First let me say that I do not understand the anger, because we disagree on this issue does not deserve the hate mail. This anger of yours is totally because I refused to sponser Mouad. I cannot do something to aid the cause of a relationship that I feel is so wrong.

Christian marriage mom??? Puleeeez! You seem to think I left the 'good life" behind, but as I explained to you, there was never to 'good life"....

Life is only as you make it.....yes, problems are in all walks of life, but none irrepairable if you want it so. You did not. Yes, a Christian marriage, Most problems arose after the cam relationship started with your Moroccan friend. No life is ever a good life when you have met someone else and want to be released from your vows.

My life is not up for public display... it is not up to anyone out there to make decisions for me,

Your life was not put up for public display, My problem was put up for display, for a solution to be found for me . If others choose to give you advice then they felt it was needed.

Thank God for protectors like you! I can imagine your are thinking "oh my... she sounds pretty mad now..." "She must be this poor angry women".. You bet I am mad and angry. To find a forum topic on me, and the crap I have had to put up with ignorant people and they're views on Muslim men are appauling.

This anger is not a healthy anger...You should be reading this with interest and insight, just in case.If this was me and my future I would be reading all the pro's and con's and take into consideration what all were saying. There are none so blind as those who will not see, and nothing so frightening for those who are watching it all happen..

my parents had the brilliant idea to threaten to tell him so he would contest the divorce and keep me in bondage to him so I cant marry this man. Thanks for saving my life once again! I had such a bright future ahead with my ex didn't I?

The purpose of telling him was not to keep you in "bondage", no one was forcing you to stay. The purpose was that we though he should know because he was the father of our granddaughter. It was his right to know what the mother of his daughter was about to get herself into. I still feel he should know.

I am 40 years old and not a 16 year old child who my parents should have to make a public plea "how can I stop this???"

I made the plea because my daughter will not discuss this rashiolnally or otherwise with me, so I try to reach you here, and that scares me to death. The only reasearch I see you have done is talking with Mouad and his family and researching the plane fare. They are only going to tell you what they want you to know and nothing more.

Just because I know his family it is a 'family' business now?

That is correct! They know if he gets over her ,he will bring them and you will have the whole family to support. Muslim men can marry western women but muslim women are sometimes murdered by their family if they think there is the slighest interest in them marring western men....Why is that Missy? is it that it cuts their chances of being brought to the states maybe? Are sons more loyal to their families than the girls?

But as I sit here and write this I am thinking 'why? am I waiting my time?" This forum is not important.

If you were as wise as you would have all to believe you would understand this forum holds a wealth of information for the asking. It is very important!

This is my life and I am responsible for my own happiness.

No, you are wrong, you are also responsible for the happiness or unhappiness of your daughter and the rest of your family. Family means more than one........

,... do your research. That is just like saying "well bad friends were the only ones I could find"... There are good and knowledgeable people out there, people that can advise you wisely 'without' pre-judging the individual. You have to remember your source for advice.. You are in america. And americans are 'not' accepting of foreigners, especially muslim foreigners. So becareful of the advice and the source you are getting it from.

I could not have said it any better than you just did, but why aren't you taking your own advice?

As for those who know I am speaking to them... I am not stupid.

No you are not, but you think we are because "you are in love" That road goes in both directions. You have cancelled all Christmas plans with us and pulled away from the family because we disagree with you on this. If disagreements gave people the right to throw their loved ones away, remember I could have done so many , many , times with you, but though, with all your silly thinking and deeds, that you were worth keeping around. I'm so sorry you do not feel the same way about us.....We love you very much!

Mom

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