For Missy

Submitted by Zella (United States), Dec 7, 2008 at 11:11

I must admit that you are a very powerful person. I haven't posted on this site for months but I do check the posts fairly frequently just to see if anything has changed except the date and time. When I saw your mother's post, quite frankly I saw her as a very strong person who can succinctly state her concerns for a daughter that she apparently adores. I believe there is a granddaughter (your child) that she is also very concerned about and with good reason.

When I read your post, it was clear that nothing has changed on this blog except a few names, the date, and time. You are not going to like my response because I say exactly what I feel. I am not as nice as Luigi or the ladies who wish you the "best of luck."

First of all, you need to learn some facts about Islam. The love of your life (not his) should also study the religion. He like many Muslims, Christians, and Jews know very little about his religion. Secondly, I am suggesting that you review all of the posts here for the past year because his name sounds familiar. I am also suggesting that you google the name and ask him some questions about it (e.g., is it "El Khoury"; "Al Khoury", etc. He may not know that "Khoury" is an arabic surname that is unique to Arab Christians and is popular in Syria, Palestine, Lebanon, and Jordan).

I am also suggesting that you take a good look at "MIssy." You described your former husband as being dysfunctional, didn't you?Well, it looks like you are heading from the frying pan into the fire. The type of men that you women meet on the social networks are first class sociopaths and like it or not, yours is no different.

Your mother cares about you because you are her daughter His mama is looking for a way for her son to come to the U.S. and support her and bilk enough money out of you to pay a "bride price." Don't be surprised if all of a sudden, someone in his family needs medical treatment that costs $4,000. The men who try to scam western women use "$4,000" instead of changing the number. Very soon, Mr Khoury or whatever his name is will say, "Baby, my mother she needs operation that costs $4,000." "She berry berry sick and she must have operation." The $4,000 will pay the bride price of a young, vaginally virgin female that mama has decided will be a "good deal" for her son. Remember that Muslim men are forbidden to ask a woman for money unless he is married to her. If the wife works outside the home, she keeps the money for herself.

Sorry, Missy, but when this ordeal comes to the final act, your first husband will look like the "best of the best." If you don't believe me, find a community (and there are many) with a concentration of Moroccan men. They drift in Moroc and when they go to a western country, they continue drifting. Study their behaviors. Talk with them. They all have the same story. Why don't they change the story? Why should they? As long as women like you believe their stories they have no reason to change.

Ok, so you are angry. Anger can be a motivational force or it can serve to make one become more defiant. The choice is yours. I'm sure you think that I am a woman who has been conned by a sociopath. Quite the contrary. I know the culture. I know the religion. My background is in psychology and counseling so I've heard every story there is to hear. I do, however, feel sad when I see western women make fools of themselves because they are desperate to find a man. I also learned some years ago that Gods' children can do bad by themselves - they don't need anyone to help them with this task.

Oh, yes, I almost forgot. How is your daughter? I do not believe you mentioned her in your dissertation.

When you arrive in Moroc, do you expect Mr. Khoury to throw his arms around you and kiss you? If you do, you are in a for a big surprise. Do you expect for him to take you out in public? Surprise! You will stay at home with Mama, cook, clean, and spend plenty of money so Mr. K can go out with his men friends. What do they do when they go out? You'll soon know the answer.

As for the so-called Attorney. How can you fall for such a story? It sounds like you've bought into the epidemic of what I call "lack of commond sense." Guess there is always room for one more foolish person in this world.

One last bit of old fashioned advice that my grandmother gave to me is quite simple and it goes like this....."a hard head makes for a soft behind.".

The light at the end of your tunnel is that when you fall, your mother will always be there to lend a hand and pick you up. Be careful that you don't destroy her spirit. Neither she nor your daughter deserves to have their spirits destroyed.

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